Losing an adult child - Page 2

dex · ‎03-09-2010

@chihuahuamom@I am so sad for you.I can’t imagine your pain and I am sorry that I have no words to make you feel better but I want you to know that I am here to listen anytime you need to talk.

NicksmomESQ · ‎08-19-2014

@chihuahuamom My heart is breaking for you!! I can’t imagine your pain.As mothers we always love & nurture our children.It doesn’t matter whether your child is little or grown he’s still your baby!!

You matter too.Take all the time you need to grieve & adjust.Your forum friends are here for you.You can lean on us!!

janeec · ‎02-17-2013

Here is a poem by Anonymous that is used at many services. May it give you some comfort.

"A CHILD LOANED"

"I'll lend you a little time A child of mine," He said,

"For you to love the while he lives

And mourn for when he's dead.

It may be six or seven years

Or twenty-two or three,

But will you, till I call him back,

Take care of him for me?

He'll bring his charms to gladden you,

And should his stay be brief,

You'll have his lovely memories

As solace for your grief.

I cannot promise he will stay,

Since all from earth return,

But there are lessons taught down there

I want this child to learn.

I've looked the wide world over

In My search for teachers true,

And from the throngs that crowd life's lanes,

I have selected you;

Now will you give him all your love,

Not think the labor vain,

Nor hate Me when I come to call

And take him back again?"

I fancied that I heard them say,

"Dear Lord, Thy will be done,

For all the joy Thy child shall bring,

The risk of grief we'll run.

We'll shelter him with tenderness,

We'll love him while we may,

And for all the happiness we've known,

Forever grateful stay.

But should the angels call for him

Much sooner then we planned,

We'll brave the bitter grief that comes,

And try to understand."

software · ‎06-08-2016

I'm so sorry for your loss

When I married for the first time, my husband had been married before and had 2 daughters. They were pre-teens and we had fun with them, they were close and we were close as a blended family. (later, we had 2 children of our own in the marriage)

The oldest daughter passed away on New Years Day, 2017. It's been so hard, She was 47 and had been in fragile health the last few years of her life due to heart disease. It was nothing she did to herself. She wasn't overweight, didn't smoke, didn't do drugs. She was such a sweet person, so full of life. Her son will graduate from high school this spring, it's been hard on him because his dad passed several years ago. He was a brittle diabetic who wouldn't take care of himself.

The son (grandson) is a great kid, smart, plans on going to college. We thank God for him.

Diabetes is such an awful disease, I've had several friends & family members who have gone on way before their time. They are still missed. No parent should ever have to go to the graveyard to visit their child.

IMW · ‎06-15-2014

Thank G-D I have not lost a child.

My heart breaks for all of you who have. My deepest condolences........there are no words. I am so very sorry. I pray for you peace, acceptance and serenity.

May your faith give you comfort.

jubilant · ‎06-10-2010

@chihuahuamom

I am so sorry to hear this. I pray God will bring you comfort and peace as you grieve this great loss. (Isaiah 41:10)

TeriK · ‎02-24-2016

@chihuahuamom. I am so sorry you have to go through this. It is awful! My son died about 12 years ago at the age of 19 from Myocarditis. Just starting his adult life. Than my significant other just lost his son age 44 in January. Sort of like de ju vu. So hard to have happen. I am thinking of you. Hugs!