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03-23-2014 02:24 AM
03-23-2014 02:33 AM
03-23-2014 02:34 AM
It's so individual. Really depends on what type of kid he is.
I guess I have to say, based on what my son was like at 7, I probably would not take him.
03-23-2014 04:48 AM
On 3/22/2014 luvingit said: It is late & I'm on my iPad. I am a school counselor and will write more later. But for now your instincts are right, he is too young for the funeral. Death is very confusing for someone that young to understand. A funeral with grandpa not waking up in the coffin and everyone sad and crying is too much for a young one to deal with besides dealing with his own feelings and thoughts.
I recently attended a funeral and there was a bunch of little kids there. They all looked in the coffin, into the hole in the ground, and none of them seemed upset by it. Death is inevitable, it's a part of life, in a way. None of them seemed traumatized.
Btw, there weren't any people sad and crying, either. Yes, mourning, but no sobbing.
Kids are a lot more resilient than we give them credit for. They get their cues from adults. I think kids handle death and funerals better than grown ups, because grown ups fear their own death, and funerals are just reminders.
03-23-2014 05:06 AM
03-23-2014 05:26 AM
Honestly, I think it depends on how close your children are to him, and how sensitive they are in general.
I was a sensitive child, but I wanted to go to the funeral of a neighbor...I think I was mostly curious...I was around 7 or so, I think. We went to the visitation and funeral. I think it would've bothered me more if it was someone I was close to who died.
On the other hand, I have learned--as an adult--that I have difficulty beginning the grieving process if I don't see the person lying dead in a casket...that is what drives the point home for me, and jolts me into reality. However, I'm not sure it would be a good thing for a child. I think that going to the funeral, but not the visitation, would be appropriate. If the funeral service includes an open casket, perhaps you can keep the children away from that and bring them to the cemetery for the burial only. Then the children wouldn't have an image of a dead loved-one imprinted in their memories, but they would have some idea of what is going on.
Children do need to learn about death...it is part of the learning process that will make them well-adjusted as adults...but they don't need to experience all of the gruesome details as young children. Some kids can handle going to a visitation, and if a child of mine were insistent about going, I would probably let him/her...but I would be sure to explain some things first.
It's a hard call to make, but you know your children better than we do.
(If you want a simple answer, I've bolded it above. Best wishes to you and your children!)
03-23-2014 05:32 AM
What does your child want to do?
03-23-2014 06:19 AM
On 3/23/2014 bigsister said:What does your child want to do?
That is a very important factor in this decision, bigsister.
03-23-2014 07:34 AM
03-23-2014 07:38 AM
When my dad died and was laid out my friend came with her two young children. The kids were 5 and 3 at the time. The kids seemed fine but I thought it was in extreme bad taste for her to bring the kids.
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