Hi bonnielu,
There are some alerts on the internet about cookware which is no longer considered safe.
Unfortunately aluminum cookware is included as being toxic causing health problems....but you read and research yourself, then decide if you still want to clean your aluminum cookware, and gift it to a young mother with children.
(If it were me though I would toss it all away, and not give it to a mother with children, or anyone else for that matter).
Also knowing what you do about aluminum and it being considered toxic and unsafe please tell the young mother so she too knows not to use it in her household.
When your Mom purchased these items perhaps at that time they did not know that aluminum is toxic and unsafe to use in the kitchen.
(Now we know better so we can safeguard ourselves and those we like and love).
Is your cookware killing you? Some cookware is better than others and some is just plain toxic.... click on the link below:
http://www.naturalnews.com/036029_cookware_non-stick_chemicals.html
Aluminum cookware is one of the most common cookware to use, but can be very toxic as this heavy metal is absorbed into all food cooked in it. The aluminum released into foods during cooking ends up in your body. Excess aluminum has been associated with estrogen-driven cancers and Alzheimer's Disease.
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Here is some help below with links, should you still need help to clean the aluminum cookware.
P.S. Do not use barkeeper's friend on them as that will harm them and is not made for aluminum.
These links below are specific hints and help to restore and clean aluminum cookware.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YdTpp_Z_8Fo
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Housecleaning Tips : Aluminum Cleaner Recipe
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TH-GyGj8Z7M
A recipe for cleaning aluminum pots and pans consists of a quarter cup of cream of tartar, a quarter cup of vinegar, a quarter cup of baking soda and 2 tablespoons of soap flakes. Scrub this mixture into the aluminum for a deep clean with advice from a professional house cleaner in this free video on housekeeping.
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Cleaning Aluminum Pots how to:
https://ask.extension.org/questions/111278
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