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04-18-2014 11:31 PM
No. I do not feel responsible for making everyone else happy. I also do not need to make everyone like me.
But there was a time when my entire life revolved around those things. Thank goodness I worked on my self-esteem and let those bad things go.
04-18-2014 11:41 PM
04-19-2014 12:03 AM
Thanks everyone. I'm more like Melindaot.. but I'm working on it.
04-19-2014 12:15 AM
On 4/18/2014 happycat said:No. Because some people will never be happy. When my kids were small, I tried hard to make them happy. Now, they make me happy..... When I was younger, I wasted a lot of time trying to make certain other people happy. Well, some folks just don't wanna be happy and you will wear yourself out trying and not get anywhere. I will say, I do have extended family that I keep at a distance- I would go nuts, absolute nuts if I had to associate with these people on a regular basis.
Some people aren't happy unless you are as miserable as they are. You can't fix that.
04-19-2014 12:21 AM
No, but I do realize that there's a lot of wisdom in the old wall plaque that says:
"If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy."
So, it's enough just working on ourselves sometimes, and it's probably very important to the overall picture, imo.
04-19-2014 12:33 AM
Oh goodness, no. I only feel responsible for keeping myself happy. Everyone else should follow in my footsteps tp keep themselves happy.
04-19-2014 01:09 AM
I've never been much of a people pleaser as I've lived life on my own terms.
That may sound great but you have no idea how totally po'ed people get when you're not catering to their every whim.
Holidays used to bring out the dysfunction of a lot of family members. When the focus was on the holiday and not on them....you took the spotlight off them and wow...how DARE you be happy and celebrate!
I cook/bake/clean/shop because I WANT to. It's a labor of love I enjoy.
If you don't want to join in, please feel free to excuse yourself from the day. We'll miss you but we'll be fine without you.
04-19-2014 02:06 AM
04-19-2014 02:43 AM
No.
I try to spread happiness. It's up to others whether they catch it.
04-19-2014 03:39 AM
YES and I'm tired of it and want MY life back!! I've raised my kids and did everything for 25 years and have sacrificed a lot. We only get one life and I feel like I am wasting mine and have NO life!! And I am made to feel guilty and belittled by my husband whenever I try to express my feelings about it.
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