Kitchen

[HisElk]

Very helpful. For the most parts, I have no complaints. He's really into cooking and I'm more into cleaning up, so it works for us. On occasion, we have our 'moments', however, 99% of the time, he's the best. And..... he's definitely a keeper!

Now my ex I would describe as just the opposite; if I said the sky was blue, he'd say no, it's light blue just to start an argument. He was not helpful in the slightest bit and a control freak in every way. That's one of the main reasons he's my ex!

[MarieIG]

On 11/29/2014 HonnyBrown said:

On 11/29/2014 chickenbutt said:

I think that some people might not understand the 'constant questions' thing because maybe they don't live with somebody who is always (!) asking questions. It can become annoying. My husband is more of a talker than I and he asks sooooooo many questions sometimes that I really have to keep myself from exploding much of the time.

The thing is, with him anyway, most of the questions are repetitive. I do get tired of answering the ridiculous line of questions and I have been known to ask 'what do you plan to do with that information?'. It's always 'oh, I just wondered'. I guess I don't get it because I don't ask questions unless it's for a specific reason for which I need that information. I have to remember that that is just part of his 'need to talk'.

I made macaroni and cheese, which is a staple when my stepsons come over. I have made it the same way since we were married.

He asked me a million questions about the type of pasta, how the sauce is made, how long to bake it...things he could have asked every other week for the past 5 years.

He chose to ask now, when I was trying to juggle Thanksgiving dinner.

I had to step back and see that he was truly curious, just at the wrong time. I answered his questions, showed him a few tricks and exercised patience.

He ended up bragging to my sons' friends about the dish when they came by for leftovers.

Although his timing was not great, it seems to me that he is trying to show you he cares and appreciates what you are doing.

[HonnyBrown]

Of course he cares about me; I'm his wife!

[suzyQ3]

On 11/29/2014 debc said:

LOL, I sincerely hope people don't take everything so literally in real life. What could have been a fun little thread has been blown out of proportion.

I'm amazed at how many people must never make fun of their spouses.

I don't know about other posters, but I did take the OP's question literally and answered accordingly.

Jokes about how useless men are when it comes to supposed "women's work" just don't hit my funny bone any more than jokes that stereotype women.

Each to his own.

[turtle52]

I don't call it helping; I call it sharing. We do everything together as a team. And yes, I AM very lucky.

[NYC Susan]

On 11/29/2014 HonnyBrown said:

On 11/29/2014 NYC Susan said:

On 11/28/2014 paShar said:

To the OP: I don't understand why you are so upset that he asked a few questions. He asked because he wanted to know! Your post seems to indicate that you think he asked just to annoy you. I don't think he was questioning your methods, he just was curious.

Instead of being annoyed, you should be grateful that he did all the things you mentioned in the first paragraph of your post.

Sorry if this sounds harsh, it's my opinion.

That was my take on it too. I would far prefer someone who was interested & curious to someone who was indifferent and off in his own world. It certainly sounds as though his heart was in the right place & that his intentions were good. And I would say he was very helpful!

I know this post was probably intended to be lighthearted, but I can't imagine using the word "useless" to describe someone I love, or even to consider it as an option. Yes, some people are more helpful than others. I think "helpful vs. non-helpful" would have sounded less offensive.

JMO, obviously!

WOW!

How do you all read that I was upset with my husband?!

You should use your "powers" for good! Lighten up and have fun, geez.

I didn't think you were upset with him. It seemed more to me that you felt he was kind of annoying, as often happens in marriages, friendships, etc. I don't have any issue with that, and I said in my reply that I knew your post was intended to be on the lighthearted side.

I do think that his heart was in the right place (as I said), and that he was trying to be helpful. But my main point - and this is just my opinion - is that it sort of makes me cringe to hear the word "useless" applied to a person. That's a strong word to me, and obviously not everyone feels the same way. I wasn't using any "powers". Simply expressing my opinion.

[shoekitty]

Honey, I know what you meant. I know you adore your husband, and I was able to understand your post and the humor. Personally, I think people just look for "words" to pick a fight or promote an agenda. Frankly, I have quit posting on many threads. It makes no difference what the topic some critical peruser looking for a way to "open up" the conversation, does!

When I saw the title, I thought, Oh no, why would someone talk about their husband on these threads. LOL! It never ends well. Someone always comes along to tell us we aren't politically correct, or we aren't kind, thoughtful or appreciative enough..

Geesh

[shoekitty]

On 11/29/2014 chickenbutt said:

I think that some people might not understand the 'constant questions' thing because maybe they don't live with somebody who is always (!) asking questions. It can become annoying. My husband is more of a talker than I and he asks sooooooo many questions sometimes that I really have to keep myself from exploding much of the time.

The thing is, with him anyway, most of the questions are repetitive. I do get tired of answering the ridiculous line of questions and I have been known to ask 'what do you plan to do with that information?'. It's always 'oh, I just wondered'. I guess I don't get it because I don't ask questions unless it's for a specific reason for which I need that information. I have to remember that that is just part of his 'need to talk'.

Hahaha, I do know what you mean. My husband answers questions about 24 to 48 hours after I ask them, or after I have explained something to him. Then when I am stressed trying to do something, he comes in and says, "did you say--?" What was that about so and so"?

OMG, you will not believe this! As I was writing the above paragraph, my husband came in and said, "what was that you were telling me this morning?". I am laughing so hard. I had to read him what I wrote. He laughed and said he has "selective hearing, and delayed hearing as well". I said, "well, it was a quicker response this time. Only 9 hours, instead of a day or two!" LOL!

[NYC Susan]

On 11/28/2014 nunya said:

On 11/28/2014 HonnyBrown said:

On 11/28/2014 nunya said:

On 11/28/2014 brii said:

The day I refer to my husband as useless - I can't imagine saying that about him.

I agree, the word useless is a tad harsh.

Well, the day that you and the other snarks meet my DH is the day that he will be perfect!

I don't consider any of the responses here to be snarky.

I don't either. Disagreeing with someone is not being snarky. It's simply an opinion.

[HonnyBrown]

On 11/29/2014 shoekitty said:

On 11/29/2014 chickenbutt said:

I think that some people might not understand the 'constant questions' thing because maybe they don't live with somebody who is always (!) asking questions. It can become annoying. My husband is more of a talker than I and he asks sooooooo many questions sometimes that I really have to keep myself from exploding much of the time.

The thing is, with him anyway, most of the questions are repetitive. I do get tired of answering the ridiculous line of questions and I have been known to ask 'what do you plan to do with that information?'. It's always 'oh, I just wondered'. I guess I don't get it because I don't ask questions unless it's for a specific reason for which I need that information. I have to remember that that is just part of his 'need to talk'.

Hahaha, I do know what you mean. My husband answers questions about 24 to 48 hours after I ask them, or after I have explained something to him. Then when I am stressed trying to do something, he comes in and says, "did you say--?" What was that about so and so"?

OMG, you will not believe this! As I was writing the above paragraph, my husband came in and said, "what was that you were telling me this morning?". I am laughing so hard. I had to read him what I wrote. He laughed and said he has "selective hearing, and delayed hearing as well". I said, "well, it was a quicker response this time. Only 9 hours, instead of a day or two!" LOL!

9 hours? Now that's progress!!!!

Yes, we truly adore our husbands, quirks and all