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[Big Joanie]

I certainly hope this is the worst thing your friend has to handle on this journey called life ....

[Sooner]

Of course the second friend knew exactly what she was doing and that it would make the other friend mad.  She wouldn't have hidden her activities otherwise.  It was mean and underhanded.

If you want to be friends with both of them, talk about something else when you are together with one or the other.   Otherwise, it is between them and not you.

[PurpleBunny]

Anyone remember that Frasier episode where his boss so admired his decor, that he completely, 100% copied Frasier's apartment?  Then the boss has his apartment featured in a design magazine?  

[homedecor1]

@Big Joanie

yup that's what I say...of course, I tried to stay out of it! Goodness it's furniture ... but being rationale right now isn't happening - lol! Thank you for your input! 🙂

@PurpleBunny

never watched Frazier but her home could probably be in a magazine! Now that's a compliment !!! Thank you for pointing that out!🙂

[qualitygal]

 You reminded me of something like that from a long time ago. Person A had great taste and Person B no taste at all but admired A so much, she went out and bought same as A.

I know it happens and doesn't mean anything bad, except B needed a lot of help. This had to do with clothing (office) not home. It happens...

For you, do things with one, not both at the same time. When you're with one, don't discuss the other. In time, maybe they'll become friends again. That happens too.

Good luck.

[Peaches McPhee]

I think your first friend is way over-reacting, and is showing her petty side.

[faeriemoon]

I'd be miffed if someone copied my decor to that degree.  Decorating is kind of my thing, and I wouldn't want my ideas ripped off.

[queendiva]

Your friend who did the copying is very insensitive. Copied the mutual "friend" by moving to the same community (ok) and then bought same decor and some same furnishings. Then invites her to see the place and wonders why she's miffed? 

Copier should have been upfront with the friend from the start and asked for her help and decorating advice from the start.  Copier breached your friend's trust. Kinda like stealing intellectual property, in a way. It was dishonest. Clearly, you will have to remain friends separately with these women. Trust was broken, without apology. That's no kind of friend.

You might want to think about the copycat as a friend of yours. She seems quite immature and lacking confidence as well as lacking empathy.

[alicedee]

Hard to say without knowing the people.  If Friend #2 was motivated by trying to "one up" her friend....then I understand #1's anger.  But if was done simply because #2 admired it so much...then it wouldn't bother me...probably just an inward eye roll!

it will be hard to stay neutral, but try!  If the motivations weren't bad, it will blow over in time.  

[birkin baby]

I realize this seems like a big deal... one good friend "copying" another. It has ended a friendship, and you are trying to figure out what to do and how to react.

      As someone who has lost her two best friends to sudden deaths, I think it is a most trivial thing. I would give anything to have my friends back. They could copy ANYTHING about me!