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Re: Is it rude to ask visitors to take off shoes at the door if circumstances warrant it?

Yes, I think it's rude. Who could live like that. I wouldn't go to someone's house who told me to take off my shoes. I have back conditions and can't walk around in flat slippers or bare feet. Even in my own home, I wear Clark's sandals or clogs as house shoes, I don't even own a pair of slippers.

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Re: Is it rude to ask visitors to take off shoes at the door if circumstances warrant it?

On 12/26/2014 Pook said:

I think it's placing more importance on material things than any friends/relatives you invite and in poor taste. It would be better to just not invite anyone if you feel that way or like others have said if you are upfront about the policy to have to remove shoes then it would be the guests choice whether to attend or not. I, personally, would not go to anyone's home where it's an edict and if told this at the door I would say good bye and leave! If they were coming from the outdoors where there is wet muddy earth I would see no problem with having them wipe their shoes off.

You apparently have never been in a public parking lot and seen someone sp*t or toss their gum. If you want to wear shoes that you wear in public in your home go for it. I certainly don't want to bring sp*t into my house, onto my floor where I have pets and sometimes walk with bare feet. It has NOTHING to do with material things!

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Re: Is it rude to ask visitors to take off shoes at the door if circumstances warrant it?

I think it sets an unpleasant tone and since my goal is to create a welcoming place, this isn't something I would ever ask of a guest.

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Re: Is it rude to ask visitors to take off shoes at the door if circumstances warrant it?

The way I was raised it's rude NOT to remove your shoes before entering someone's home.
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Re: Is it rude to ask visitors to take off shoes at the door if circumstances warrant it?

I would be embarrassed to take my shoes off in someone's home....I don't have the best looking feet...bunions...ugly toe nails that have to be maintained by a podiatrist...(of which I can only go to every 10 weeks)..so my nails might be long and really ugly...I know TMI....lol..

That being said ....if I am told I will have to take off my shoes ahead of time....I would bring some slippers to put....and I don't mind that....but I would not want to be told at the door that was the rule....

I rarely wear socks...so you can see my issue...

BTW....I have NEVER been asked to take off my shoes EVER no matter where I have visited..i have been around for 72 years...and have always lived in states with variable weather...Mich...N.J. and Pa....

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Re: Is it rude to ask visitors to take off shoes at the door if circumstances warrant it?

I never need to ask any of my guests to remove their shoes when they enter my home. They automatically do on their own! My friends are very considerate.

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Re: Is it rude to ask visitors to take off shoes at the door if circumstances warrant it?

It's your home, be it upscale condo or slum gum. Your home, your rules. I would be sure to let people know about your feelings before they come, so that they can decline if there is an issue. If someone in your family has immunity problems, you should explain that to prospective guests.

I do think, however, that I wouldn't care for people's bare feet either because of foot fungus, etc. ; so I would get a supply of "inside" slippers or socks in varying sizes and ask my guests to wear those. Just be prepared to have a significant decrease in the number of your friends.

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Re: Is it rude to ask visitors to take off shoes at the door if circumstances warrant it?

I would never ask anyone to remove their shoes at my door, but, if I am asked at someone else's house I do so without any hard feelings. That being said, if you keep your home on the cool/chilly side, it is inconsiderate and I would not stay long, as I don't care to have cold feet. As to whether or not it is rude...that would be in the mindset of the individual being told to remove their shoes.

"To each their own, in all things".
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Re: Is it rude to ask visitors to take off shoes at the door if circumstances warrant it?

I think if you saw some of the diseases that people have on their feet you would prefer the shoes. I keep a throw rug at each entrance for people to wipe their shoes on and most do that.

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Re: Is it rude to ask visitors to take off shoes at the door if circumstances warrant it?

Growing up my parents (Mom) always asked people to remove their shoes. They had a sun room off the kitchen and places to sit to remove the shoes. Us- we live in the country and have NO carpeting but it seems like country people always remove their shoes.

Pink Kitchen Story: Relative in the 50's and 60""s had an all pink kitchen. It was NEVER used. She cooked in the basement and when you visited you sat on lawn chairs in the basement.

There was a kitchen table there and that's where they ate.

And there was no one left to speak out for me....