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Re: For those who have ever moved.

I moved out of my house about 6 years ago. The first purge was very hard. I made the kids take most of their things since they had houses now. I downsized quite a bit, but still took more than I needed. For many different reasons, I've moved twice since then, and am preparing next year to move to FL for retirement. Anyway, each move got easier and easier as I realized what I didn't use in that time period and since I had already given up some sentimental items. I knew my kids wouldn't want them and hoped that they'd find a home with someone who loved them as much as I did. Have I regretted giving anything away and had to rebuy it? Yes, a couple of items, but not nearly as much as I thought I would. Plus I do feel so much freer and no worries about making the kids do it cursing me all the while. lol

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On 5/21/2014 Beccaboone2 said:

I am an experienced mover, both long distance and local. I'm preparing for a long distance move right now (this weekend actually!).

The longest I have lived in one place was 12 years, where the bulk of my son's childhood was spent. Moving from there was awful - my worst move ever - and a real eye opener. I don't keep everything, I am organized, neat, etc., but I found I STILL had way too much "stuff" after 12 years. I donated a ton of stuff to Goodwill, St. Vincent de Paul, etc., I also rented a large dumpster and I was pretty ruthless. Every move since then I have purged and shed more stuff...it is a lot of work - A LOT!!! - but you may be surprised to find it brings a feeling of relief in a sense.

When my son was growing up, I had one of those plastic flip-top bins for every year of school for him, and I saved EVERYTHING. Before my last move, I went through every single bin (took hours a week for several weeks) and heavily purged. I saved a few things from each school year, awards, certificates, etc. and put it all together in one large bin. ONE. There is no way my son would have wanted EVERYTHING I had saved, and this way he still has important stuff to share with his kids someday. That was hard but cathartic at the same time.

I've also become much better about getting rid of shoes, clothes, etc. that don't fit well or are uncomfortable. My advice is to start now...it's a big job but you will be happy you start now, and your children will be happy you did it, too. I just didn't want my "stuff" to become my son's nightmare at some point, as I see all too often. Good Luck.

OMG, I thought I was the only one crazy enough to save every single school paper. I have 3 boys. 2 are out of college and one is in High School. I have every paper, test, booklet, etc. they ever worked on. My husband thinks I am nuts and he shares this insight with others, I think in hopes I will wake up and purge. When we had our current home built, we made the garage a bit bigger to store all the bins, and yes, 1 for each child for each year. They don't want this stuff, so it will be my chore someday to go through it all. Don't even want to think about that.

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I've moved 4 times in my life and all times, packed and moved ourselves. I started way in advance getting rid of things and packing things not needed, so as much as possible is done beforehand. The last move was the biggest, moved from one house to another, had a garage sale and donated what didn't sell, we rented a large Budget truck and loaded a whole house of furniture, etc., by ourselves after work at night into the middle of the night, got a few hours sleep, in the morning, moved to the new house and unloaded it all by ourselves, my husband and I. The good old days when we were young, LOL! That was 25 years ago!

My next move will be to a condo and we are not taking any furniture except my wood pedestal kitchen table, getting rid of it all, it's shot through 4 dogs and 2 kids and a lot of their friends through the years. We will move ourselves again, although his time we have two kids in their 20's and their friends who will do the work, LOL!!

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On 5/21/2014 Puppy Lips said:
On 5/21/2014 Beccaboone2 said:

I am an experienced mover, both long distance and local. I'm preparing for a long distance move right now (this weekend actually!).

The longest I have lived in one place was 12 years, where the bulk of my son's childhood was spent. Moving from there was awful - my worst move ever - and a real eye opener. I don't keep everything, I am organized, neat, etc., but I found I STILL had way too much "stuff" after 12 years. I donated a ton of stuff to Goodwill, St. Vincent de Paul, etc., I also rented a large dumpster and I was pretty ruthless. Every move since then I have purged and shed more stuff...it is a lot of work - A LOT!!! - but you may be surprised to find it brings a feeling of relief in a sense.

When my son was growing up, I had one of those plastic flip-top bins for every year of school for him, and I saved EVERYTHING. Before my last move, I went through every single bin (took hours a week for several weeks) and heavily purged. I saved a few things from each school year, awards, certificates, etc. and put it all together in one large bin. ONE. There is no way my son would have wanted EVERYTHING I had saved, and this way he still has important stuff to share with his kids someday. That was hard but cathartic at the same time.

I've also become much better about getting rid of shoes, clothes, etc. that don't fit well or are uncomfortable. My advice is to start now...it's a big job but you will be happy you start now, and your children will be happy you did it, too. I just didn't want my "stuff" to become my son's nightmare at some point, as I see all too often. Good Luck.

OMG, I thought I was the only one crazy enough to save every single school paper. I have 3 boys. 2 are out of college and one is in High School. I have every paper, test, booklet, etc. they ever worked on. My husband thinks I am nuts and he shares this insight with others, I think in hopes I will wake up and purge. When we had our current home built, we made the garage a bit bigger to store all the bins, and yes, 1 for each child for each year. They don't want this stuff, so it will be my chore someday to go through it all. Don't even want to think about that.

I'm sure there is a support group for us somewhere. I, too saved every paper and project from my son's school years. He went to a very challenging private school, and they did much more in the arts and academic areas than any public school I've seen, so I have soooo much stuff. I started last year clearing some of it out. Much of it I saved as reference material for him to use later. We found (and I figured ahead of time) that once he transfer to public high school, it wouldn't be as challenging and he could use some of his old work as refresher/reference material, and expand on some of the big projects he did. And I'm glad I didn't dump everything at the end of each school year, because some of it was helpful and used.

With him being a senior next year, my big purge on theses things will happen this summer, and my goal is to be down to one tub. We had some friends move to England, and they really had to purge the kids school work and projects, so they photographed most and tossed it. Sad, yes, but liberating as well.

My mom handed me a folder with my grade cards, a few class pictures, and one or two papers/projects. Glad she saved them, but just as glad she didn't hand me tubs and tubs of stuff. Less is more (more appreciated anyway).

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We lived in our first house for 23 yrs. Moved 5 times since then. That will get you to clear out your junk, and it is junk. We are now in our 70s and it was time to give our house a final clearing of the junk. Just finished clearing out the garage. We live in the Midwest so had to wait for it to warm up so we could clear the garage. With our tax refund this year we bought our tombstone and had it put on our plot. We are ready and our daughters do not have to do it. I just have to give our daughters their grandmother's diamond rings, my rings, and a plant stand one daughter wanted. And that's it.

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When my father passed, I helped my mother declutter. They lived in the same house for 48 years. I live 1000 miles away. It took me two years to get it done. It was near perfect if I say so myself and could easily be put on the market. Then last summer my sister got divorced and moved in with a half a house of junk and two kids. All my hard work is gone. The new clutter is causing my mother lots of stress.

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I just stumbled across this timely thread.

We are moving my dad from his condo of 20 years into an independent living apartment that is 300 sq. feet smaller. The new facility gave us the name of a woman who is a licensed and bonded organizer, packer and stager. She came over, took pictures of every square inch of space including the garage and storage room. She has been a God-send.

She works with a team of 4 women. She went over all my dad's possessions and fortunately, he was a dream to work with. She went to his new apartment to get measurements for furniture placement. There are things he has to get rid of but, that was to be expected.

Included in her fee was the change of address with utilities, etc. She even made up fliers for him with his new info. to send out. She also deals with consignment shops and charities that will take things you want to get rid of. On moving day, she will be there to supervise and her team will be at his new apt. to put everything away, from dishes in the cabinets to the pictures on the walls and his bed made. She said for us to take my dad for the day and she will call us when the move is complete. She even took care of the cable company.

This lady tells me that there are about 500 moving/organizing specialists. If DH and I ever decide to make the permanent move to our AZ. home, we will hire her.

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Let your daughters do it.

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On 5/21/2014 mominohio said:
On 5/21/2014 Puppy Lips said:
On 5/21/2014 Beccaboone2 said:

I am an experienced mover, both long distance and local. I'm preparing for a long distance move right now (this weekend actually!).

The longest I have lived in one place was 12 years, where the bulk of my son's childhood was spent. Moving from there was awful - my worst move ever - and a real eye opener. I don't keep everything, I am organized, neat, etc., but I found I STILL had way too much "stuff" after 12 years. I donated a ton of stuff to Goodwill, St. Vincent de Paul, etc., I also rented a large dumpster and I was pretty ruthless. Every move since then I have purged and shed more stuff...it is a lot of work - A LOT!!! - but you may be surprised to find it brings a feeling of relief in a sense.

When my son was growing up, I had one of those plastic flip-top bins for every year of school for him, and I saved EVERYTHING. Before my last move, I went through every single bin (took hours a week for several weeks) and heavily purged. I saved a few things from each school year, awards, certificates, etc. and put it all together in one large bin. ONE. There is no way my son would have wanted EVERYTHING I had saved, and this way he still has important stuff to share with his kids someday. That was hard but cathartic at the same time.

I've also become much better about getting rid of shoes, clothes, etc. that don't fit well or are uncomfortable. My advice is to start now...it's a big job but you will be happy you start now, and your children will be happy you did it, too. I just didn't want my "stuff" to become my son's nightmare at some point, as I see all too often. Good Luck.

OMG, I thought I was the only one crazy enough to save every single school paper. I have 3 boys. 2 are out of college and one is in High School. I have every paper, test, booklet, etc. they ever worked on. My husband thinks I am nuts and he shares this insight with others, I think in hopes I will wake up and purge. When we had our current home built, we made the garage a bit bigger to store all the bins, and yes, 1 for each child for each year. They don't want this stuff, so it will be my chore someday to go through it all. Don't even want to think about that.

I'm sure there is a support group for us somewhere. I, too saved every paper and project from my son's school years. He went to a very challenging private school, and they did much more in the arts and academic areas than any public school I've seen, so I have soooo much stuff. I started last year clearing some of it out. Much of it I saved as reference material for him to use later. We found (and I figured ahead of time) that once he transfer to public high school, it wouldn't be as challenging and he could use some of his old work as refresher/reference material, and expand on some of the big projects he did. And I'm glad I didn't dump everything at the end of each school year, because some of it was helpful and used.

With him being a senior next year, my big purge on theses things will happen this summer, and my goal is to be down to one tub. We had some friends move to England, and they really had to purge the kids school work and projects, so they photographed most and tossed it. Sad, yes, but liberating as well.

My mom handed me a folder with my grade cards, a few class pictures, and one or two papers/projects. Glad she saved them, but just as glad she didn't hand me tubs and tubs of stuff. Less is more (more appreciated anyway).

I am another nut who saved every single thing my two kids ever did. I had saved every scrap of their work from mommy and me, preschool, kindergarten through high school. My attic was FULL of box after box. When they were in college, in the summer we went through it all and got it down to one box each that they put in their rooms, got rid of the rest. It was sad, I'm not a saver, I get rid of everything but this was very hard. Seemed like I was throwing away all those years and hard work.

I always kept separate scrapbooks and photo albums for them that they still have with report cards, photos, communion, confirmation, graduation, etc. Just got rid of the school work. My mother also saved everything of ours, she gave me two albums of pictures and papers when I left home. I remember going through the attic with her getting rid of all my school papers. She kept everything in our big old wood toy box in the attic. Those days scrap books were paper pages that you stapled things on, they were all very yellowed.

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On 5/21/2014 Scotnovel said:

I have moved cross country twice, to Europe once, and there were a few other local moves in between. There is some great advice in these posts especially deciding about the volume of items that you really need, getting rid of worn out heavy furniture, and simply going room by room to decide, trash, donate, keep. When sorting always keep in mind that things that may be sentimental to you may literally have no meaning for the rest of your family. Get rid of those things now because otherwise your children will be the ones to wade through them. It is the memories that are important not the stuff.

Consider also adding a fourth sort and that is - sell. I'm not talking about a garage sale. My last cross country move, I seriously reduced my jewelry collection by selling pieces to a woman who operated a jewelry booth at a local antique/collectible mall. I also sold some clothes to a local resale shop. I had some old glassware & antique odds and ends that were sold to a dealer at that same antique/collectible mall. I got enough from those sales to cover the mover's cost. It didn't take any serious time to make those sales just a couple of phones calls and a trip to that mall and the resale shop.

Great post, Scotnovel. I like your fourth sort recommendation. And my favorite part is: "It is the memories that are important not the stuff." It's good to keep this in mind, always.