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[BirkiLady]

@LindaSal  When we moved my MIL (in Arkansas), the Assisted Living place helped with the decorating since we were in Nebraska and couldn't do all the shopping personally. They said it was part of the package for most of their in-coming residents.

We did help her decide what furniture to take; then sold or donated the rest to Charity or set it out for the garbage. It's a small community without any retail, so shopping for new furniture was not an option while we were there. I was more concerned about her adjustment, health issues and RX being transferred accurately! 

I did do everything for my mom who was living in Lincoln, which was much easier. Plus, I knew her taste and wants. 

Thanks to all the in-laws for helping out. That's so kind of you! I'm sorry you don't feel appreciated by your husband's family. Talk to him about your feelings. He needs to know how it hurts you. 

[Desert Lily]

@wilma  I think the granddaughter deserves kudos for her effort and good taste (I like tan &  blue), and your mother-in-law may need to hear only compliments about how lovely her new place looks to help her adjust to her new surroundings.

[wilma]

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@Janey2 wrote:

If your mother-in-law is able to get around maybe her granddaughter can take her to pick out some accessories for the room. This might make her more comfortable with the furniture.

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@Janey2 

She could go out, but she would need her portable rolling chair that she uses for getting around the complex. She didn't want to go when the granddaughter asked her to go with her. 

[wilma]

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@mspatmac wrote:

It's hard to relate to the pictures as they all show tan/beige sofa's and your MIL's is light blue.  It all depends on the shades of colors chosen.  Maybe it's the way the colors are combined and not the scheme it self.  Tan drapes on tan walls doesn't sound appealing to me.  Have you asked her what she especially doesn't like? I feel for her, going through the upheaval of leaving her home and going to a space she really isn't happy with is sad to me.  Maybe some tweaks could help.  I know she she gave GD full reign, but in hindsight they should have worked together. I hope she can be made more comfortable with the decor.  On a personal note if anyone brought me a yellow pillow I would throw it at them LOL.

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@mspatmac 

Sorry I don't have photos of my mother-in-law's apartment. I would feel a bit strange taking photos of it and posting here. 

As far as asking her specifically what she doesn't like, she volunteered she didn't like blue and tan when I commented that I thought the furnishings looked nice. She didn't say anything else. I was told by the eldest son's wife and mom of the "granddaughter" who did the shopping not to bring it up again. 

[wilma]

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@LindaSal wrote:

Okay, forgive me but I am going out on a limb here.  From someone who moved her MIL into assisted living about 2 years ago and had to help decorate the place also.........I'm giving the granddaughter full credit for her time and effort.  I think beige and tan are fine together and yes, you can go ahead and throw in that yellow pillow or whatever.   I agree that a bit of brightness brings cheer but in my case I asked my MIL every single color detail regarding curtains etc.  She told me she loved it, even the nurses liked my decor abilities (I am not a professional but have decorated as a hobby over the years).  My SIL told me that my MIL hates it       Really????  I realize it's a sad time in their lives and we all bend over backwards to try to keep their final years happy but a little appreciation??

Sorry, rant over.

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@LindaSal 

I agree with you. The granddaughter volunteered to take charge. She tried to get details of what her grandmother wanted, but all she got was "light blue sofa". She also was invited to go shopping with her but refused. 

When the blue sofa was delivered, she was very happy according to the eldest son's wife. She thanked her granddaughter for all her work. She has only told my husband & I she doesn't think the color combination goes together. 

[jubilant]

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@mspatmac wrote:

It's hard to relate to the pictures as they all show tan/beige sofa's and your MIL's is light blue.  It all depends on the shades of colors chosen.  Maybe it's the way the colors are combined and not the scheme it self.  Tan drapes on tan walls doesn't sound appealing to me.  Have you asked her what she especially doesn't like? I feel for her, going through the upheaval of leaving her home and going to a space she really isn't happy with is sad to me.  Maybe some tweaks could help.  I know she she gave GD full reign, but in hindsight they should have worked together. I hope she can be made more comfortable with the decor.  On a personal note if anyone brought me a yellow pillow I would throw it at them LOL.

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@mspatmac   I agree, it was hard for me to relate to the pictures as a light blue sofa would change everything.  With that said, I did find the rooms posted attractive.....especially the 5th one.    

[wagirl]

I am crazy NUTS over navy blue for some reason---too much white in some of the rooms and white furniture would not do for me and my cat--but bring on the shades of navy blue!!!

[AuntG]

I'm okay with tan and blue, but I'm more partial to a very light tan. I think the MIL should keep quiet since she basically told her granddaughter to pick out the furniture. Be thankful you have a considerate grandchild.

[shoptilyadropagain]

I love Blue and Tan together and would be happy with that color scheme. My favorite picture posted is the first one...mostly because I like the furniture and accessories more than the others.

I, too, am wondering if your MIL just isn't going through an adjustment.