On 8/7/2014 azterry! said: On 8/7/2014 kittymomNC said: On 8/7/2014 azterry! said: On 8/7/2014 SoftRaindrops said: I would never condemn a generation of women who for the most part were a lot more elegant than the generation of over 60 women I have seen. No matter where you go...even the finest of dining spots one sees women dressed so casually, they could be going to the beach.
We could all take a lesson from the women of the 50's who knew how to dress respectfully of others. As far as the Q's clothing there are many clothes that are just unflattering to anyone no matter what their age. A person just has to pick and choose carefully.
i really can't agree with you that we should take a lesson in dressing from the women of the 50's. They wore unnatural looking bras and girdles that were torture devices. They weren't respectful of others. They were repressed!
I like seeing women under and over 60 in colorful capris, comfortable knits, flowy skirts and dresses and cute sandals. I like seeing non cookie-cutter hairstyles and fun manicures. I like statement jewelry and strong women claiming their rightful place in this world.
Baby, we've earned it!
It would be interesting to know how old you are. If you were a child of the 50's, then I have to disagree with the opinion you have expressed. If you weren't around then, maybe you have made a statement regarding something you really know nothing about.
I was a child and teenager of the 50's into the early 60's, and my mother was the most respectful person I've ever known. So were the mothers of all my friends and other people that I knew. The ones I knew didn't dress or look like the Hollywood movie stereotypes that you describe here. They were sweet, caring, smart, respectful of others, and if they were "repressed", they had the courtesy not to show it in public...unlike a lot of younger and pushing middle age women today, who haven't learned how to be respectful or courteous in many situations. There are plenty of women on these boards (and I'm sure they are ALL ages) who wouldn't know the meaning of respect for others if it slapped them in the face.
I learned to be a "strong woman" from my mother and other so-called "repressed" women of the 50's. Strong women of my age have paved the way for the younger generations to "claim their rightful place in this world".
JMHO
I was not a child of the 50's, but of the 60's. I observed the contortions my mom went through to get dressed up. She came of age in the late 40's early 50's. They DID wear heavy-duty pointy bras and girdles.
I did not mean to imply women then were not respectful to others. I just disagree their manner of dress was "respectful of others". They were just as driven by the fashions of their day as women now are.
We will just disagree regarding the lack of respect thing of today's women with you. I think it is a vast over-generalization. Women may seem less polite, but I think that is thinking fueled by the "men are assertive, women are aggressive" fable.
I do not yearn for the way things were in the 50's. I like moving forward and if there are bumps along the way, that's just part of the process.
I was only responding to what your post said - "women of the 50's", not the 60's. Things started changing drastically as we all know in the early 60's. And your comment "THEY weren't respectful of others" came across as all women, not some. And your second post is basically doing the same thing -- saying THEY rather than some. I realize it's a matter of semantics, but it does come across as a generalization of all women. I was stating what I observed and lived during the 1950's, and the women that I knew didn't dress the way you are describing. Maybe some did, but the majority didn't. I cannot remember more than one or two occasions where any of the women that I came in contact with had "pointy bras", although I know they were available and "some" women did choose to dress that way, just as "some" women today dress in ways that are considered provocative.
As far as respect in today's world, especially when I was still working but even now, I come in contact with a lot of younger women (not all) who have an attitude of "the world owes me because I'm a woman" and show disdain and lack of respect for older women who, as I said, helped pave the way and fought hard so that the new generations could have more opportunity than they did. And I'm no prude where clothes are concerned, but showing more of their bodies and parts of their bodies than most people want to see tells me that they have little respect for others. I said "a lot", not all, in my post so I don't think it was a "vast over-generalization".
And as far as lack of respect on these boards, that is a true statement. Again, I said "plenty of women", not ALL women, wouldn't know the meaning of respect if their behavior here is any indication.
I respect your opinion...I'm just giving my own opinion based on personal experience and observation.
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