Fashion

[Frankie_Dee]

Sincere thanks to all who answered. Part of my problem is I live in Texas, where it's hot as blazes already. I'm hot-natured anyway, so I don't layer or wear scarves even in the winter!

As to "wouldn't it just be easier to get reconstruction?" Well, yes and no. That's why it's such a personal decision. Too many pros and cons for me to list here. Lots of cancer sites discuss them. For one thing, it's too early to know yet whether I'll need radiation or chemo, something else that figures in to the equation. It's a good and fair question to ask though!

A friend chose, over 15 years ago, not to have reconstruction. To go out in public blatantly flat chested? I always saw that as very brave. She sees it as a badge of honor, courage, and the defeat of cancer. Part of the beauty of aging is that I really don't care so much what others think anymore. 

Thanks for sharing your stories, ideas and support. I've never been much of a fashionista so I'll probably just keep wearing my "nice" tee-shirts. And I'll know there are ladies out there who will see me and silently wish me well and maybe even think that I'm brave like my friend! Hugs to all!

[traveler]

try www;tlcdirect.org

or

www.bosombuddy.com for an alternative

[QVCPhobe]

I never had this done, but I would recommend wearing tank tops.  I live in Texas and understand what you mean about the heat.  I am sure that there are coot tank tops if you chose to purchase some.   I wish you well and you are a very strong and brave woman.  Best to you and a speedy recovery.

[beach ladydrb]

The knitted knockers are a wonderful  idea! My late mother would have loved this product. She had a mastectomy on one side before reconstruction was available and always hated the prosthetics.

[Ms X]

I'm reluctant to comment because I don't want to offend anyone.  However, my two cents is that you should do what makes you comfortable and not self-conscious.  This would vary according to where you are, I'd think.  I was in a situation like this with a number of bald spots that just suddenly popped up on my head with alopecia areata six summers ago.  I decided that if they didn't grow back I would wear a wig because I felt so self-conscious.  I bought a wig but didn't wear it, and by fall my hair had grown in.  All other times I've only had a single bald spot that was not noticeable, usually in the occipital area. 

Life's too short to live your life being self-conscious about something that has an easy fix, so dress according to what would make you feel your best in a particular situation.  Good luck with your recovery!

[aoldgirl]

Hi, I also have had a biateral mastectomy without recon. in 2014.  I elected not to rebuild the boobs, mostly cause I'm in my mid 60's and they were always hot and heavy and they got in my way and all I wanted wasto be healthy (not fashionable or sexy).  So what I found was cool, lighter and a little more freedom, but I wouldn't go out in public without my prosetic breasts in my bra. One thing is tops for women are cut to fit breasts. so to wear womens tops I wear my bra with the inserts. And no V-necks,period. only crew neck or polos or boat necks. Button down blouses only if I only un button one, maybe 2 buttons.  Remember you have no cleaveage.  And one more thing Try not to get any sun on the scars for a year or two.  The scar will never fade if sun gets to it   Tank tops are out, but Tube tops are ok.  Hope this helps.  Oh, and I, so far, haven't regetted it. I've embraced my choice.

[Vamp]

Wishing you all the best moving forward, Frankie.

Generally speaking, tops that have ruching, ruffles, cowl necklines and lighter colors on top will create the illusion of more on top. Patterns can also fool the eye. Wearing a jacket can also hide a lot, although I know in the summer that's not much of an option.

Most importantly, wear what makes you feel comfortable and beautiful.

Here is an article full of tips. There are plenty of articles and examples of clothing for women with small or no bust on the internet, just google. 

http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Flat-Chest-Beautiful

[Andreatoo]

@Frankie_Dee:

@Jaxsmom brings up a good point, which I can relate to having lots of scar tissue on my chest from a double bypass, wearing something soft! My situation is a bit different since I keloid but I can imagine any scarring would be uncomfortable when you have something scratchy or excessively dense rubbing against it.

I find even a simple crochet or lace detail (in the wrong place) to be irritating.

[LexaMom]

I had a bilateral mastectomy in 2004 - without reconstruction.  I never regretted it despite my surgeon's insistence that I would be back.

At home,  I don't bother - but when I go out - I have forms that fit in  my Rhonda Shear Ahh Bras.  I used to buy more expensive bras but don't anymore.  

Still deciding on a good option for a swimsuit.