I feel your pain, Serenity! I had bunions on both feet, and many years ago I had one foot fixed (before the microscopic surgery they have now). Because of my situation, they had to break the bone leading to my big toe and reset it at a different angle and put a pin in my foot, cast for six weeks, etc. I had no idea about that kind of thing, but it kept the bunion from coming back. So it might be wise to seek the opinion of an orthopedic surgeon if you're considering surgery. Needless to say, I never went back for the other one! But I understand the surgery for an uncomplicated situation is much easier now.
I almost always have to buy wide width shoes and boots, and some work okay and some don't. It's really just trial and error. I have some Clark's boots, some White Mountain, some Weatherproof winter boots, and many pairs of sandals such as BOC by Born and Baretraps, all from QVC. They do have a much bigger selection of wide widths than I can find anywhere else. When I find one that works, I buy in multiple colors.
But I did find that I can wear "I Love Comfort" shoes and boots, which I usually find at Sears so I can try them on. (They're also available online.) They don't have a wide width, but for some reason the Medium works for me. I found some last year, and bought them in brown and black, and actually bought two pairs of the black in case I wear one out. I loved the style and knew I would never get tired of it, that's why I bought the two pairs.
So I guess I would say again, it's trial and error. And buy multiples when you find one that's really comfortable!