would you be suspicious - Page 2

Group 5 minus 1 · ‎03-11-2010

I doubt if the neice really knows much about who or who not was invited. After all she is only 13.

CrazyDaisy · ‎03-20-2010

@GoneButNotForgotten wrote:
@CrazyDaisy wrote:
After this last year many people have evaluated family relationships. Could very well be an olive branch.

That's a nice thought and I hope it's true but in this case, I'm not optimistic.

So you were just looking for confirmation that continuing this fude was the right thing to do rather than take a chance.

Someday, when scientists discover the center of the Universe....some people will be disappointed it is not them.

stevieb · ‎03-10-2010

@CrazyDaisy wrote:
After this last year many people have evaluated family relationships. Could very well be an olive branch.

I wondered the same... I wouldn't go but I might send a small check or gift of some sort. If it's a gift grab you'll know it because you won't hear from them again until the next 'occasion', at which point I'd ignore the invitation completely.

In my pantry with my cupcakes...

goldensrbest · ‎03-10-2010

10 yrs. not hearing from them,and you are thinking of sending a gift? No way, ignore them!!!!

When you lose some one you L~O~V~E, that Memory of them, becomes a TREASURE.

kaydee50 · ‎02-07-2011

As long as your husband agrees, I would trash the invite and forget it.

drizzellla · ‎03-14-2010

It is your husband's family. I personally would keep my mouth shut and let him decide how best to proceed.

Maybe he is ready to repair the silence that has gone on with his sister's family for 10 years.

Love my grandkids · ‎11-24-2013

Gift grab. Send a card and be done.

mamaslittlepotato · ‎03-09-2010

You aren’t 100% sure of their intentions. I would decline the invitation, but I would send the child a nice card with a small check (maybe $30.00?) in it. I’d write something nice in the card and I’d explain who we are.

Be the bigger person. Whatever happened between all of you isn’t her fault. I definitely wouldn’t just throw the invitation away and ignore it. That’s rude, imo.

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

I would attend.

I've heard (from my parents) that the ceremony is very beautiful.

This girl probably is a very kind, sweet girl.

Let her get to know you.

She has a long life ahead of her, maybe keeping in contact with you.

It would be a nice thing, imo.

'More or less', 'Right or wrong', 'In general', and 'Just thinking out loud ' (as usual).

hgsuddle · ‎07-02-2010

I am Jewish and have had two mitzvahs for my children in the last decade. These are my thoughts:

Families are strange. This is your husband's family. If he wanted to go, I would encourage him to attend. You don't want him to be able to blame you for not repairing a rift if there was a chance.

A card with a small gift of Chai ($18) is kind. It is not the child's fault you are not in her life. Perhaps just by extending that small olive branch will be enough to open the door again to revisit being in touch.