when you talk with or to someone, - Page 3

CatsyCline · ‎07-24-2013

Someone once mentioned that I was "bouncy" when I talked. That didnt work well in interviews, so I trained myself to keep my hands neutral in professional settings.

I do notice though I chat with my hands and "palm up" only when speaking to men. It's an inconscious gesture indicating cooperation, sincerity and at times, a wish to be courted! its just a natural gesture for me.

this is my nic · ‎03-30-2010

@JeanLouiseFinch

I do the same, touching that is! When someone touches me during a conversation I don't mind at all, of course I have to know them! There have been a few times when the person I touched flinched. Obviously, I didn't touch them again. It just wasn't their thing and I respect that.

Burnsite · ‎03-10-2010

I gesticulate a lot when speaking. But a work-friend once told me that she worries in difficult meetings only when I go quiet and stiill. (Not that I spring like a cobra or anything. I do think things over before I raise an objection,)

QueenDanceALot · ‎04-18-2013

I can't imagine NOT being expressive with my hands when I'm talking about something I'm excited about. I don't just sit there with my hands folded in my lap, politely.

I think it would be weird to be in a room of people talking with no one gesturing with their hands. It's normal and expected where I come from.

I enjoy people who are animated when they speak.

SilleeMee · ‎05-22-2016

No, because my hands are very deformed from scleroderma and I'd rather not let people see them.

viva923 · ‎03-12-2010

I do think I use my hands more when I speak with someone, if it just a passing note, then I may just do a quick hello=good bye thing, but if it is a long conversation I do use my hands.

ItsME · ‎03-10-2010

@Pook wrote:
@this is my nic Like you, my maternal grandparents were from Italy also so of course I do!!!! I'm a loud talker too.

@Pook The loud talker remark brought back memories of when I walked past a neighbor's house many years ago. They were a deaf couple, and only used sign language. That day, they were in the garage having an arguement. I have no idea what the agrument was over, but their hands were talking loud!

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

Putting your hand on someone while speaking with them is holding their attention and it shows dominance. Parents often do it to their children. I would not like anyone doing it to me.