what would you do if ex-lover texted your husband? - Page 9

Sage04 · ‎07-10-2011

@Helen Bach what has he done that was so wrong? Are you wondering if they have been in touch before? That could be why you don't like what's happening. Hope you don't push him towards her, that is if she will have him.

You will be laughing at this very soon and teasing him about his old girlfriend.

jubilant · ‎06-10-2010

@Anonymous032819 wrote:
I have a male friend that I have known since high school.

He is married and has a 13 year old daughter.

We are friends on Facebook.

I never write anything on his board that I wouldn't want his wife to see.

There is nothing wrong with people of the opposite sex still being friends, even if one or both parties are married.

Everybody is assuming that the ex is trying to steal the husband.

Isn't it also possible that she is just saying "Hi! How are you?", with no "sinister" motive behind it ?

Why automatically assume the worst?

All I see is women acting like cats in a fight.

Women are marking their "territory", like a dog lifting its leg.

Yes, I know that I'm using mixed metaphors , so what.

Either the wife trusts the husband to handle the situation, or she doesn't.

If the marriage is good and strong, she shouldn't need to resort to childish responses and tactics, such as "blocking that *it©h!". She would trust her husband and not feel threatened by an ex simply saying ”Hi".

If there are issues in the marriage, then the ex saying "Hi", really isn't the problem, is it?

@Anonymous032819 I agree with much you have said. It is never good to go into "guessing games" or attack another person without knowing any facts. Some women here do seem to have their claws out. If this man has been a faithful husband and not given poster any reason to doubt him then I think the husband should be given the benefit of the doubt. Who wouldn't be surprised by a phone call from an old lover or even an old boyfriend or girlfriend! It put him in an awkward position for sure. Unless husband had given reasons for op to doubt him in the past I think he should be given the benefit of the doubt. If she still feels insecure about it, she should tell him how she feels and maybe together they could come up with a "kind" way of letting her know this doesn't work for them.

Mistreatedbycs · ‎03-10-2010

@Puppy Lips

Channel 111 afternoons on Sirius Radio.

I just love her, she calls it like it is.

lovesrecess · ‎03-14-2010

How do you know he still has feelings for her?

redhead handbag queen · ‎07-03-2010

We have been married going on 30 years. DH has an ex that pops up every so often. He ended it with her six months before we met but she continued contact with his mom while we dating, engaged and married until MIL moved. DH signed up for facebook a couple of years after it came out, within two days he had a message from her wanting to get together to catch up. He ignored it.

I just make sure to remind him of what he dodged as others have restraining orders on her. I hope your husband's ex isn't like this!

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gertrudecloset · ‎02-13-2021

Why is everyone so hung up on how to respond to this woman in a text message? Why aren't people more concerned about how the OP is feeling since she thinks the man she married still has feelings for another woman?

If a man is going to cheat, you best believe no amount of blocking from you will stop him.

Priorities, people! Priorities. @Helen Bach You should be getting to the bottom of why/if your husband still has feelings for this woman. That should be your only concern.

A Negative Mind ~ Will give you a Negative Life

Lindsays Grandma · ‎03-10-2010

@Desertdi wrote:
Best to ignore it........Things could go wrong if you encourage the ex

@Desertdi ...Smart answer, why stir up problems...

The moving finger writes; And having writ, Moves on: nor all your Piety nor Wit Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line Nor all your Tears Wash out a Word of it. Omar Khayam

Zhills · ‎11-15-2011

I don't think she has ulterior motives. I believe the Pandemic has us thinking about old friends and wondering how they are. I do!

I have reached out to a few, not any husbands, but I do think about some people who were "special" in my life but are no long in it for whatever reason.

I hope "she" is happily married also and is just thinking about old friends.

Puppy Lips · ‎05-09-2010

@Mistreatedbycs wrote:
@Puppy Lips

Channel 111 afternoons on Sirius Radio.

I just love her, she calls it like it is.

@Mistreatedbycs I used to listen to her years ago. I remember her talking about kids who wanted to find their birth parents. She said that the only reason they want to do that is to "punish" the birth parent. I don't know about that, but I have always remembered that for this reason - my SIL is adopted. She did track down her birth Mom and showed up at her door, unannounced. This woman had since married and had other children. My SIL intends to show up at her birth Mom's funeral and introduce herself to her siblings. Yup, that is my SIL. We are not close, lol.

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