Community Chat

[SilleeMee]

Seems like a woman goes missing around here every so often. There are a couple more of them in different parts of the state still missing. Lots of places here to dump a body and never be found.

[Tinkrbl44]

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@Annabellethecat66 wrote:

I am obsessed with watching all of those 'reality' shows on ID channels,etc and every single time when the woman is missing, she turns up dead......every single time.

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@Annabellethecat66

Nice to see you back on here !!!   How are you doing?

[chrystaltree]

I'm wonder what world or what century OP is living in....lol   Couples build their families in a way that works for them today and marriage is just one option.  Marriage certainly is not a requirement for having child or being a family.   I know of several couples who had the kids first and married later on but the fact that this couple was  not living together made me wonder.  It made me think that they weren't getting along, that there were troubles in the relationship and she was not at all excited about her "engagement".  The police told her to speak nicely about the "fiance" to throw him off his guard.  He was the last one to see that girl  alive and sadly, we know how that situation ends.  

[occasionalrain]

If she and the baby's father are no longer a couple and she was missing he would assume her family would report it. Being a pilot she may be away for extended periods so that ten days wouldn't be the same for her as for someone working 9 to 5.

[lovesrecess]

I see this all the time; the girl gets pregnant and instantly starts referring to the father as her "fiancé". Marriages rarely actually happen in many of these situations from the ones I have known about. The grandmother takes care of the baby and  the father is "off the hook." 
I hope this young woman is okay. It doesn't sound very promising from the info they have shown on TV.

[Tissyanne]

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@occasionalrain wrote:

If she and the baby's father are no longer a couple and she was missing he would assume her family would report it. Being a pilot she may be away for extended periods so that ten days wouldn't be the same for her as for someone working 9 to 5.

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@occasionalrain, I believe she is an instructor, and does not fly as a pilot for her job. I did hear her mother speak a couple of times, and she keeps saying her daughter has never left before, and would have told her if she was going to be away for a while. I would think her baby's daddy would be in contact with her if they co-parent a 1 year old. I also saw on the news they live on the same block in different townhouses. 

[esmerelda]

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@chrystaltree wrote:

I'm wonder what world or what century OP is living in....lol   Couples build their families in a way that works for them today and marriage is just one option.  Marriage certainly is not a requirement for having child or being a family.   I know of several couples who had the kids first and married later on but the fact that this couple was  not living together made me wonder.  It made me think that they weren't getting along, that there were troubles in the relationship and she was not at all excited about her "engagement".  The police told her to speak nicely about the "fiance" to throw him off his guard.  He was the last one to see that girl  alive and sadly, we know how that situation ends.  

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@chrystaltree Hey, I get that about families being built in different ways. My puzzlement was with the fact that they share a child and they are engaged and yet they live apart. I’ve heard of baby and then marriage and I’ve heard of baby and no marriage. But I’ve never heard of baby and engagement (and “excited to be getting married”) and living apart. Anything else?

[esmerelda]

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@lovesrecess wrote:

I see this all the time; the girl gets pregnant and instantly starts referring to the father as her "fiancé". Marriages rarely actually happen in many of these situations from the ones I have known about. The grandmother takes care of the baby and  the father is "off the hook." 
I hope this young woman is okay. It doesn't sound very promising from the info they have shown on TV.

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@lovesrecess  agreed regarding the misuse of the word fiancé. I heard a while ago that fiancé is French for  “the guy I’m sleeping with.”  Maybe people are taking that to heart more than they should. LOL! 

[chrystaltree]

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@esmerelda wrote:

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@chrystaltree wrote:

I'm wonder what world or what century OP is living in....lol   Couples build their families in a way that works for them today and marriage is just one option.  Marriage certainly is not a requirement for having child or being a family.   I know of several couples who had the kids first and married later on but the fact that this couple was  not living together made me wonder.  It made me think that they weren't getting along, that there were troubles in the relationship and she was not at all excited about her "engagement".  The police told her to speak nicely about the "fiance" to throw him off his guard.  He was the last one to see that girl  alive and sadly, we know how that situation ends.  

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@chrystaltree Hey, I get that about families being built in different ways. My puzzlement was with the fact that they share a child and they are engaged and yet they live apart. I’ve heard of baby and then marriage and I’ve heard of baby and no marriage. But I’ve never heard of baby and engagement (and “excited to be getting married”) and living apart. Anything else?

I don't think they were really engaged.  I think they were engaged at one time but the relationship was over.  That's why they were living apart.  That's why she dropped the baby off for the visit.  That's why she told her mom, there were no Thanksgiving plans.  When I read between the lines, I don't see an engagement.  I do think that the mom said what the police told her to say, the police told her to play nice with him so that he would drop his guard.  Perhaps let something slip. 

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[pattypeep]

@esmerelda According to HLN today, a search warrant has been issued for fiance's property.