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[Lila Belle]

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@Mellie32 wrote:

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@Sooner wrote:

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@VanSleepy wrote:

The wedding threads around here are always enlightening.  I never knew there was so much angst over attending a wedding.  

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There didn't used to be the angst.  That is why there are so many obnoxious weddings today and people go away mad.

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Can you give an example of a wedding that would be obnoxious and make people angry?

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How about your thread about weddings w/o a meal?

[Mellie32]

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@Lila Belle wrote:

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How about your thread about weddings w/o a meal?

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A wedding without a meal is obnoxious?

[itiswhatitis]

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@Mellie32 wrote:

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@ncascade wrote:

I really would suggest that one purchase an etiquette book or check one out of the library.

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Etiquette book?  This isn't the 1950s.

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https://www.theknot.com/content/new-rules-of-wedding-etiquette

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/victoria-deardorff/the-dos-and-donts-of-bein_b_10636820.html

[Nataliesgramma]

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@VanSleepy wrote:

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@Sooner wrote:

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@VanSleepy wrote:

The wedding threads around here are always enlightening.  I never knew there was so much angst over attending a wedding.  

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There didn't used to be the angst.  That is why there are so many obnoxious weddings today and people go away mad.

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I enjoy going to weddings.  I don't really know what you mean by obnoxious, but thankfully, I've never been to one that I felt was 

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I went to one that might fall under the obnoxious catagory a few years ago. When we entered the reception .....bride and bridal party were no where to be found....Rock music was blasting so loud I could't hear my husband next to me and we were no where near the speakers. When the bridal party showed up after 45 min, most of them were very drunk. My husband and I ate our dinner and quietly left. This was no cheap venue either...

[Mellie32]

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@Nataliesgramma wrote:

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I went to one that might fall under the obnoxious catagory a few years ago. When we entered the reception .....bride and bridal party were no where to be found....Rock music was blasting so loud I could't hear my husband next to me and we were no where near the speakers. When the bridal party showed up after 45 min, most of them were very drunk. My husband and I ate our dinner and quietly left. This was no cheap venue either...

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Now that sounds obnoxious for sure.

[violann]

Seems to me that etiquette decisions are more a matter of choosing what you like for yourself while considering the comfort and convenience and enjoyment of those who will be impacted upon or influenced by your choice, rather than what somebody who doesn't know you is deciding what you should or shouldn't be doing.

Golden Rule over Emily Post.

[Tinkrbl44]

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@hovis wrote:

All I can say it's that time of year for weddings and alot of questions do come up. Etiquette books are out of date before they even come out. Things change so fast these days. What was correct a year ago maybe out of date now. 

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@hovis

This is a surprising comment.   You're basing this on what, exactly?    Good manners never go out of style.

[Tinkrbl44]

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@Perkup wrote:

An etiquette book is nothing more than the opinion of the author.  That may be an excellent source for information.  But a wedding is something that should be left to the bride  -  it's her dream, ( and her finances ) not her agreement with a book, that counts. 

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@Perkup

Actually, that's not true.     Did you really grow up never learning anything about manners and etiquette?

[abbeythe 8th]

Most wedding threads here are not about asking for advice.  They are frequently started to complain about wedding gowns, bridal showers, venues, food served or not served, misbehaving children, etc.

Of course there are complaints the bride & groom have spent too much money.

[Perkup]

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@Tinkrbl44 wrote:

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@Perkup wrote:

An etiquette book is nothing more than the opinion of the author.  That may be an excellent source for information.  But a wedding is something that should be left to the bride  -  it's her dream, ( and her finances ) not her agreement with a book, that counts. 

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@Perkup

Actually, that's not true.     Did you really grow up never learning anything about manners and etiquette?

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