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[proudlyfromNJ]

I have 2 hanging on my fridge now. The one for wedding in July, I received the invitation in March. The one for wedding in September, I have not received the invitation yet. I have always had the invitation follow the save the date card.

[Mominohio]

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@Preds wrote:

The Save the Date is just a "heads up" that you may recieve an invitation. I think they are a waste of time and money, but they are part of the package now.  My DD sent hers out several months in advance for people who will need to travel or take time off to prepare for the wedding.  Her invitations went out last week.  Her wedding is in July.

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Congrats on the upcoming wedding!

I don't have a problem with this 'new' thing. It actually is kind of nice to have a head's up, especially for those that have work and distance issues, like you mentioned. And people's calendars fill fast, the pictures were so nice, and I don't have any complaints about the practice of sending these type notices.

I just wondered if we slipped up somewhere in the process. Thanks!

[ROMARY]

Personally, I'd just ignore the Save the Date.  It's not an invitation, and probably wouldn't be interested in attending to begin with.  I'm guessing that the wedding has been postponed OR the bride's parents have minimized their guest list. 

[KathyPet]

A Save the Date means that a invitation will follow.  It does not mean save this date and don't plan anything else because maybe we will invite you to our wedding. I have never heard of getting a "save the date" and no follow up. If the wedding was postponed or cancelled a follow up notice should have been sent.  

[Sooner]

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@ChynnaBlue wrote:

I would ask the person who sent you the Save the Date card. It's possible they sent you an invitation and it was lost in the mail.

If not and they just sent you a Save the Date card and no invitation, save the date for a nice dinner out with your husband or a friend.

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Great idea!  Think of it as a reminder to NOT send a gift if you don't get invited!  LOL!!!

[Sooner]

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@Mominohio wrote:

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@Preds wrote:

The Save the Date is just a "heads up" that you may recieve an invitation. I think they are a waste of time and money, but they are part of the package now.  My DD sent hers out several months in advance for people who will need to travel or take time off to prepare for the wedding.  Her invitations went out last week.  Her wedding is in July.

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Congrats on the upcoming wedding!

I don't have a problem with this 'new' thing. It actually is kind of nice to have a head's up, especially for those that have work and distance issues, like you mentioned. And people's calendars fill fast, the pictures were so nice, and I don't have any complaints about the practice of sending these type notices.

I just wondered if we slipped up somewhere in the process. Thanks!

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What I don't get about today's world is the way you are expected to save dates and travel long distances to people's events when you apparently aren't in close enough contact with them on a normal basis to know about when the wedding is coming up. . . but there's a lot I don't get!

[Jacie]

I have come to detest Save The Date cards.

[ID2]

I'm deep into weddings. We just had a wedding on Friday and another of our children is getting married a year from October. The save the date notice people receive is just what it says....the couple is just notifiying you of the date of their wedding in hopes you'll keep in mind of their date. A wedding invitation is then sent about 4 weeks before the wedding. HTH

[proudlyfromNJ]

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@Sooner wrote:

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@Mominohio wrote:

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@Preds wrote:

The Save the Date is just a "heads up" that you may recieve an invitation. I think they are a waste of time and money, but they are part of the package now.  My DD sent hers out several months in advance for people who will need to travel or take time off to prepare for the wedding.  Her invitations went out last week.  Her wedding is in July.

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Congrats on the upcoming wedding!

I don't have a problem with this 'new' thing. It actually is kind of nice to have a head's up, especially for those that have work and distance issues, like you mentioned. And people's calendars fill fast, the pictures were so nice, and I don't have any complaints about the practice of sending these type notices.

I just wondered if we slipped up somewhere in the process. Thanks!

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What I don't get about today's world is the way you are expected to save dates and travel long distances to people's events when you apparently aren't in close enough contact with them on a normal basis to know about when the wedding is coming up. . . but there's a lot I don't get!

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We are close to one of our "save the dates". It is my husbands Godson. We have known all about the wedding from day one. He sent the cards to everyone invited. I like having the reminder so I can plan accordingly. 

[sunshine45]

we received a SAVE THE DATE card for a wedding that was supposed to be last friday. that card went out an entire year before. the wedding was cancelled two weeks prior to the date. they had already had bridal showers, a destination bachelorette party, weekend trips to purchase and fit the wedding dress, engagement party.

cancelling the wedding two weeks prior to the event meant that they could not get any money back from anyone. the brides family held a party anyway and asked people not to dress up to much. of course, no one from the grooms side was there. the bride got cold feet and said that her husband to be was "boring.".......and they lived together for a couple of years.

the brides mom practically went into hiding for those two weeks. we received notice via a text message from the maide of honor apologizing and saying that the wedding was off.