online condolences...what do you think?

esmerelda · ‎03-10-2010

IMO it depends on the age of the bereaved, how close you are to them or the person who died.

Maybe the bereaved will see them, maybe print them and keep them. But I don't think they are as personal as a pretty card with a personal note that a person can hold and read whenever they want.

I don't mind that the online option is available. Better that than nothing. And some wouldn't bother otherwise...IMO.

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Moonlady · ‎03-10-2010

I don't see anything wrong with doing both, but I'd never offer only online condolences.

The pain they have cost us, the evils that never happened.

insomniac · ‎03-09-2010

Giving condolences online is better than nothing--but not by a lot.

CardinalGirl · ‎03-09-2010

I think a card is wonderful, especially for someone who is not "wired" to today's technology. However, for those who are connected to the internet, then an on-line message is a good way to let them know you are thinking of them.

My uncle was a prominent newspaper writer. When he died last year, his newspaper wrote a lovely account of his life and ran it on the front page of their print edition. They also featured it on their on-line edition, and it was very touching to read all the wonderful tributes and messages that people left on the comment section.

Krimpette · ‎03-09-2010

I do on-line only if it's someone I've not very close to, but want to express condolences. Most times, however, I do both, or just a card with a personal message.

lulu2 · ‎03-09-2010

Recently I checked (for the first time) the online condolences that were left in response to my father's obituary. They were from distant relatives or everyday acquaintance of his, that I'd never met. They do not know me, nor would they know my address.

I was moved to tears by many of them.

lovescats · ‎03-10-2010

I don't really see anything wrong with it because I see cards slowly going away the same as books.

adelle38 · ‎03-09-2010

I think online condolences are more of a public tribute to the deceased. I always do both.

It's always a victory for me when I remember why I entered a room.

sunshine45 · ‎03-09-2010

i usually do both......and i really appreciate reading others thoughts and prayers online.

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Hoovermom · ‎03-19-2010

I have done it when I did not know the address of the relatives of the deceased. I thought it was the best I could do without knowing all of the particulars. Some of the messages were very heartwarming. Yes, I do send flowers/cards to the people I know but sometimes you have to do what is available to you. If I were the relatives, I would be honored that they took the time to write on the "wall".