multi-weddings - Page 6

bikerbabe · ‎03-09-2010

I responded that if it’s a good friend, the OP should consider attending.

There are no details given with regard to whether this would be a financial burden, or whether she has attended any previous weddings.

My reply was based solely on whether or not the mom was a good friend. Clearly, if it’s a financial burden or she’s not close enough that she attended any other weddings, this wedding is a moot point.

I still maintain that the number of the wedding is irrelevant.

Lakelife62 · ‎05-09-2023

An invitation is not mandatory. If you can't afford to go or simply don't want to afford to go, just decline.

We've been invited to several destination weddings and have politely declined. No one has ever questioned it. In fact, my husband and I had a destination wedding with 20 deciding to attend. We looked at it as the people we want to be there the most will be there. And that's exactly what happened. No hard feelings or regrets.

JeanLouiseFinch · ‎10-03-2011

@Sooner wrote:
@JeanLouiseFinch wrote:
@vermint wrote:
This is just me, but I don't attend "destination" weddings--they are usually in places I have no desire to go, and I don't have the money to spend for travel and the clothes it would require. For a fifth wedding, any gift would be very small, also.

Two of my best friend's three daughters' weddings were in locations that would have required flights, hotel rooms, car rental, restaurant meals, etc. I regretfully declined because I just am not going to spend thousands of dollars. These weddings were also not in places that I would have wanted to go on vacation. I did send nice gifts.

The oldest daughter got married within a couple hours driving distance, so we did attend that one, and got a hotel room for just one night.
@vermint We're in this predicament right now. We have friends whose daughter lives in Texas and is getting married there next spring. We already received our Save-the-Date card. For us to drive, it's two full days on the road there and two back, plus hotel, in addition to thr hotel we'd need while we were down there, plus eating out multiple times. We'd also be using a week of DH's vacation. We could fly and make it a quicker trip but airfare right now is ridiculous. I'm watching Southwest but they don't have the dates yet. This isn't a vacation we would normally choose so it's a lot of sacrifice and expense, just in the name of friendship. The bride and groom will be up here in September and I'm invited to their shower. Everyone is understanding if we decide not to make that long trip. I will attend the shower and probably just give them both gifts then.
@JeanLouiseFinch To me, to be brief: You would be nuts to do this. If they expect you to do this, THEY are nuts. Unless of course you are all very wealthy and have time and money to burn and nothing at all better to spend your time and money to go.

To me, the time is a bigger request than the money for them to ask for.

You're right, we would be! There are no expectations, @Sooner The mom and dad (our friends) know it's mostly going to be the friends and coworkers of the bride and groom. Mom and dad have some friends who already live in TX, so they will attend, but mom and dad even doubt that family from up our way will make the trip. I'm sure the invitation is a courtesy,

ManyMeows · ‎01-11-2014

Five weddings ?

The new bride should have a large table at the wedding reception, piled high with gifts from Weddings 1-2-3 & 4, items that were never used, no longer used, or just weren't good enough. Next to the table, there should be a large standing sign saying "Thanks for Coming, Please Help Yourself."

If you happen to see one of the gifts that you gave her at a previous wedding, simply remove it and place it on the Wedding #5 New Gifts Table.

A congratulatory Wedding Card stuffed with Monopoly Money should also get the point across.

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

If you truly enjoy attending weddings and receptions, I would go.

Especially if the wedding is near your hometown. No need to travel, hotel room, etc.

(We no longer attend 'out of town' weddings and/or receptions, events. )

If you go, enjoy!

'More or less', 'Right or wrong', 'In general', and 'Just thinking out loud ' (as usual).

VanSleepy · ‎10-05-2010

I'm confused as to what some people are referring to as a destination wedding. If the bride and groom are getting married in their home state, no matter how far it is from my home, I don't consider that a destination wedding. If they expect people to go to Aruba, that's a destination wedding IMO

Lakelife62 · ‎05-09-2023

@ManyMeows wrote:
Five weddings ?

The new bride should have a large table at the wedding reception, piled high with gifts from Weddings 1-2-3 & 4, items that were never used, no longer used, or just weren't good enough. Next to the table, there should be a large standing sign saying "Thanks for Coming, Please Help Yourself."

If you happen to see one of the gifts that you gave her at a previous wedding, simply remove it and place it on the Wedding #5 New Gifts Table.

A congratulatory Wedding Card stuffed with Monopoly Money should also get the point across.

What is the point you are wanting to get across?

DSD2 · ‎01-09-2016

I hope you consider going, if nothing else to support your friend.

We need and appreciate our friends during the best of times, the worst of times and everything in between.

My father was married five times. I wasn't invited to any of the weddings but his fifth wife was lovely. It took him long enough but he finally got it right.

songbird · ‎03-21-2010

My brother had two full upscale weddings. The first one (he married a doctor) was a big one in a hotel. They were married less then a year. The second one is successful. But the same big deal in a hotel. I should talk. I had one not quite as lavish as my older sister, but yes the whole 9 yards in a hotel. I go though life seeing people marrying in hotels. Ironically is I remembered signing my marriage certificate which legally declares you married, thinking what a big deal this was!

By the way, everyone in my family could not stand my brother's first wife. Everyone was relieved when they got divorced. Even though it was the first divorce in my family.

beckyb1012 · ‎03-09-2010

My dear late Mom was married 6 times. Her first to my father in 1960 was the full blown all virginal white affair with tons of attendants and big reception.

Each wedding/ceremony thereafter got smaller as she went down the line of men. I attended her third (11 yrs. old) and her fifth (16 years old) both as her maid of honor.

By 1984 she married her 6th husband in his home state of California as soon as she moved there, with that intention. Just the two of them and a couple of friends were present. Family visited her a great deal over her two decades in Lake Tahoe but she did not want anyone traveling to a 6th ceremony so we all stayed home in Texas.

That marriage lasted 27 years until she passed on.

Thank goodness she retired back here with us in Texas in 2005 with her final husband.

"Live frugally, but love extravagantly."