Community Chat

[jackthebear]

if you can go there in a couple of hours and have an outfit ready, perhaps

send your regrets which is all that is required of an invitation

sound like this is a money s--k for you

[Malcontent]

Some women collect VPH and some women collect husbands…apparently.

VPH would be easier and cheaper to return.

[JeanLouiseFinch]

Without knowing her history, the bride seems to like weddings but not marriage. If it was No. 2, we'd probably attend.  By No. 5, you'd think the bride would realize how ridiculous she looks and would be sensitive enough to just do something more low key. If the guy is wealthy, they probably don't need any gifts anyway,  I would decline.

[kaydee50]

As long as it didn't involve my having to give them a gift--LOL!!--and didn't involve any other expense, I would go for the free meal and to see who #5 is.  Have to say, I would be embarrassed to invite people to my fifth wedding.  The bride is a loser.

Agree with DH, my DH would never go if there were any sort of dress requirement and I don't blame him.

[CelticCrafter]

No, I wouldn't go and it sounds as if you really don't want to either if you are trying to talk yourself into it.

[teganslaw]

I would politely decline, saying that I have other obligations that day. No reason for another explanation. I would attend the second  but the fifth, no way. I'd send a card and best wishes (because they need it-but wouldn't say that) but no gift.  This marriage might not last  and then you'll get an invitation to a 6th wedding later. 

[faeriemoon]

I would assume any fifth wedding invitation would include the phrase, "no gifts please."

[We rescue cats]

Is she a close friend? If it is a valued friendship I would be there for my friend. She will like having you to talk to about the wedding, share thoughts and will value your support.

[vermint]

This is just me, but I don't attend "destination" weddings--they are usually in places I have no desire to go, and I don't have the money to spend for travel and the clothes it would require. For a fifth wedding, any gift would be very small, also.

Two of my best friend's three daughters' weddings were in locations that would have required flights, hotel rooms, car rental, restaurant meals, etc. I regretfully declined because I just am not going to spend  thousands of dollars. These weddings were also not in places that I would have wanted to go on vacation. I did send nice gifts.

The oldest daughter got married within a couple hours driving distance, so we did attend that one, and got a hotel room for just one night.

[Lvqfan]

If the truth be known, the brides mother would probably like to skip the whole thing, too!  I'd politely decline......the woman sounds like a serial bride.