how would you handle this - Page 5

Sage04 · ‎07-10-2011

@Desertdi you made me choke on my drink.

Sage04 · ‎07-10-2011

Everyone knows not to mess with a grandchild. Noooo

Silver Lining · ‎04-16-2010

@crazered wrote:
My sister and I talk on the phone at least every two weeks. I am the youngest of three.Still treated like I am a child.
I am 60 plus.
Last time we spoke she mentioned my 3 yr old grandson looks like he needs braces, she thinks he has buck teeth.
I was floored she said this I told her he doesnt have bucked teeth. It really ticked me off. I got off the phone ASAP before I said something I would regret. I don't talk about her grandchilden. If I told mey son he would be really mad. It would only cause friction in the family. We live 300 miles apart so its not like I see her often.
How would you handle this situation?

I don't see anything to handle. She lives 300 miles away, you rarely see her and talk on the phone maybe twice a month. I guess you don't like her anyway, hence the thing about sisters treating you like a child. You already know how she acts so just ignore her weird remarks. Just let it go.

happycat · ‎09-18-2010

@crazered wrote:
My sister and I talk on the phone at least every two weeks. I am the youngest of three.Still treated like I am a child.
I am 60 plus.
Last time we spoke she mentioned my 3 yr old grandson looks like he needs braces, she thinks he has buck teeth.
I was floored she said this I told her he doesnt have bucked teeth. It really ticked me off. I got off the phone ASAP before I said something I would regret. I don't talk about her grandchilden. If I told mey son he would be really mad. It would only cause friction in the family. We live 300 miles apart so its not like I see her often.
How would you handle this situation?

People do not know how to stay in their own lane. I am sorry, I would be mad and hurt also. If you say something, it won't go over well more than likely. Not sure what I would do, I might try to avoid the next few phone calls from her and perhaps she would get the message.

She is probably jealous in some way or you or your son for her to say that anyway. Something may be eating at her, in my opinion.

Ifeelwicked · ‎06-03-2012

I'm trying to remember the last time I saw a child under pre-teen age with braces....🤔 That said, I have a "friend" who tries to ruffle feathers all the time with remarks like that. (I was excited to show her my new car after driving my "mom mobile" for 10 years, and her only response, "Well, I certainly don't want a car payment!" Just one of many examples.) I figured out it is her own insecurities that cause her to act like that, and I no longer engage or allow her to suck me in. And that's been the one thing that has worked. "Oh, you're so funny! Hey, I gotta run. Take care."

Just remember it's NOT you, it's her. You can still be a loving sister, but when she starts to go "there," let there be the "proverbial" knock at the door, tell her to have a wonderful day, and say goodbye. It won't be long before she stops, if you don't allow it to start. 🌸

esmerelda · ‎03-10-2010

@crazered wrote:
My sister and I talk on the phone at least every two weeks. I am the youngest of three.Still treated like I am a child.
I am 60 plus.
Last time we spoke she mentioned my 3 yr old grandson looks like he needs braces, she thinks he has buck teeth.
I was floored she said this I told her he doesnt have bucked teeth. It really ticked me off. I got off the phone ASAP before I said something I would regret. I don't talk about her grandchilden. If I told mey son he would be really mad. It would only cause friction in the family. We live 300 miles apart so its not like I see her often.
How would you handle this situation?

@crazered I would’ve said something like be sure to give his parents your opinion.

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gramgrandkids1 · ‎10-31-2019

I would have laughed and said he is 3 and has baby teeth. Would have asked sis what had she been smoking that day to make such a crazy statement. Would have told her she should do research on when children usually get braces and tell her all of us are sheltering in place, but her mind is playing tricks on her. Suggest she go outside, get some fresh air and clear her head.

Jackhound Mom · ‎03-09-2010

Dear @crazered

I am an only child with no children but here is my 2 cents.

I think I would be insulted by the "buck teeth" remark and would defend my grandchild with a comment like that, sister or not. I'm sure you would not make such remarks about her children or grandchildren.

It was out of line and I tend to Not let things roll off my back. We each have our own way of handling things. I think you should tell her how you feel about her remark and there is some great advice here in your thread.

Hope this does not cause a split between you both. I wish I had a sister.

Good luck and please let us know how it works out.

jannabelle1 · ‎09-12-2010

Honestly? I would have laughed and told her it's nice that she's now the dentist in the family! Just laugh....sounds like she wants to control you a bit! Tell her to mind her own business and laugh when you say it....! And don't mention it to your son - handle her yourself (stand up for yourself!)