Community Chat

[Mox ie]

Have you noticed that none of these people have a loving relationship with friends or family. How can they? They are so wrapped in their hoard and the mess it has created it is all they can think about.

Now for those who just live in a messy house and maybe clean it up once every few weeks, I think they have similar problems with friends and family. I go to a friends house and she just laughs and says throw it on the floor. I am not comfortable at her home, and I can't pretend that I am. The kitchen counters and sink is full of dishes and she fishes out a kitchen cup and washes it so we can have coffee. She knows I am coming so I assumed she did some straightening up before I come because the bathrooom is reasonable clean.

She is sad a lot of the time and suffers because her children don't see her often and so she doesn't see her grandchildren much. I have offered to come over and we would have a cleaning day but she turned me down. She says she has always been that way and she is too old to change. I know she is suffering from mild depression and it breaks my heart that she won't get help because she doesn't think she needs help.

When she has one of her cleaning days, she invites us over for cards and she is so happy, she does have a beautiful home full of wonderful vintage items and her furniture while old, is craftmaster and looks brand new when cleaned.

I think when you let things get out of control you get depressed and you keep people out of of your life and if you are a hoarder you become mean and nasty about it. And your biggest problem is you don't want to be judged, but judged you must or you will go back to your old ways.