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[wishmoon]

...and so goes the internet, where everyone always has an opinion and of course, they're always right. 

Todays "Ann Landers" if anyone remembers...

[Susan Louise]

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@blackhole99 wrote:

I don't think posters are telling you how to life your life, I think they are giving their opinion on what they would do in certain situations, you can take or leave it. I know I don't know everything and like hearing what other people think about things.

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@blackhole99  Very well said...and I agree

[Moonchilde]

People feel outrage (the most common impetus to start a "what should I do/what do YOU think" thread) or great sadness/heartbreak. They have very strong feelings about the situation before they ever post. They know exactly how they feel. They want affirmation that everyone sees things as they see them.

People post (of course) one side of the story - their side. If anyone doubts what a poster claims and/or asks questions, all of a sudden it becomes 'how dare you not believe me/question me, you mean girl you.'

It gets very, very old. People just want to be told they're right and others are wrong, and that's all they want.

I no longer post in many/most of such threads because I consider them a waste of my time as their OPs really don't want any genuine advice or input. Occasionally one will annoy me and I will give my honest opinion, knowing they won't like it. Tough; you asked.

[AuntG]

There is a little bit of everything on the boards.  I'll answer a "what would you do" question. As @AnneBelle mentioned, sometimes we are looking for affirmation that we handled a situation appropriately.

[Noel7]

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@wishmoon wrote:

...and so goes the internet, where everyone always has an opinion and of course, they're always right. 

Todays "Ann Landers" if anyone remembers...

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@wishmoon

There is something to be said for crowd sourcing.  It's worked numerous times... kind of like Do You Want To Be A Millionaire letting a contestant ask the audience for the answer.

[Noel7]

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@Moonchilde wrote:

People feel outrage (the most common impetus to start a "what should I do/what do YOU think" thread) or great sadness/heartbreak. They have very strong feelings about the situation before they ever post. They know exactly how they feel. They want affirmation that everyone sees things as they see them.

People post (of course) one side of the story - their side. If anyone doubts what a poster claims and/or asks questions, all of a sudden it becomes 'how dare you not believe me/question me, you mean girl you.'

It gets very, very old. People just want to be told they're right and others are wrong, and that's all they want.

I no longer post in many/most of such threads because I consider them a waste of my time as their OPs really don't want any genuine advice or input. Occasionally one will annoy me and I will give my honest opinion, knowing they won't like it. Tough; you asked.

@Moonchilde

I don't either.  In fact, I stay away from one I am sure is chain yanking.

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[QueenDanceALot]

You lost me on the mediocre mystery and nun part.

But no, I don't come here to be told how to live my life.

Although I'm sure there are some here who are ready to do so.

[Daisy Sunflower]

Speaking of "nun mysteries", do you remember the tv show, "Father Dowling Mysteries"? Good show.

[stuyvesant]

What I find unique about this website is the DEMAND for further information.

So - somebody starts a thread about some conundrum or ethical situation they are facing.  Usually the first responses are supportive.

THEN, someone posts they need more information.  They feel the original poster is only supplying information from HER side of the story.  After all, there are three points of view, your point of view, the other's point of view, and the truth (we only deal in three dimensions here).

Prior posting of the thread starter are cited to illustrate a credibility issue.

For the thread to really get rolling, the original poster needs to respond and cite illustrations of her original posting.

These get picked apart.  And a satisfying time is had by some.

[Moonchilde]

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@Noel7 wrote:

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@Moonchilde wrote:

People feel outrage (the most common impetus to start a "what should I do/what do YOU think" thread) or great sadness/heartbreak. They have very strong feelings about the situation before they ever post. They know exactly how they feel. They want affirmation that everyone sees things as they see them.

People post (of course) one side of the story - their side. If anyone doubts what a poster claims and/or asks questions, all of a sudden it becomes 'how dare you not believe me/question me, you mean girl you.'

It gets very, very old. People just want to be told they're right and others are wrong, and that's all they want.

I no longer post in many/most of such threads because I consider them a waste of my time as their OPs really don't want any genuine advice or input. Occasionally one will annoy me and I will give my honest opinion, knowing they won't like it. Tough; you asked.

@Moonchilde

I don't either.  In fact, I stay away from one I am sure is chain yanking.

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There are a couple that as soon as I see who the OP is I just read for entertainment value but don't comment.

There are people here we "know" who routinely ask for advice & opinions who come unglued if they don't get 100% affirmation, and feel attacked with every dissenting offering. Those are the ones I rarely comment in. 

But the unknown posters who have come out of nowhere to post highly contentious OPs and who rarely if ever return to the threads? I think of that as spam, frankly.