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[Jerzgirl]

Sorry, wasn't finished. Jerz

[Jerzgirl]

Nice "seeing" you! It's always a pleasure bouncing into you! Hope ll is well with you and yours! How have you been?? How were your Holidays?? Thanks for asking about my mother. Unfortunately we've been though some scares with her, still in the process of on-going testing. I've prayed like I've never prayed before! Never been so scared . My father tells me (because I worry SO much) that all the worry in the world isn't going to change what she has or doesn't have and or how bad it is Etc Etc Etc. He's says, all we can do is wait and do what the Dr's tell us to do and to go from there, that it's in God's hands. I know he is 100% right but I cannot help it, that's my mother. On top of that, my mother fell right before Halloween, smashed her left shoulder and femur bone. Her COPD kept from having immediate replacement surgery, long story short, she was hospitalized forever, then off to rehab which is a story in its own. Bottom line is, she needs and wants surgery (pain) but is at great risk, so I am dead set against.(my father wants her to have it) We're still in the process of figuring it all out. My father had his own health issues going on as well. It truly s*cks watching your parents become old and basically fall apart slowly. I hate illness. I hate a thing called, death. I am selfish, I want my parents around for ever, even sick and God forbid, suffering. I love them maybe too much...overly protective too. I never ever miss a Dr's appointment or any type of testing.. I'll step on toes, make waves and sign wavers just to get into the room where the test gives off radiation and the answer is usually NO/not permitted, I'll get that YES just to rub her head, hold her hand or just to talk to her, because I know she is scared. I know every single medication both my parents on...how much, how often, the strength/mg Etc and the interactions Etc. I just want the very best for my parents, and that's what they get!!! I'll be back to touch base with you. Take care. Jerz

[cater]

Jerz, Oh lord you have your hands full trying to do what is best for your parents and the rest of your family. You are with your Mom and Dad like I was with mine. I was like you I sat at the hospital for hours when either one of them were patients. There was one time my Dad was really ill in the hospital and I was home getting ready to go back there and he called me and wanted me to get back there as fast as I could. I drove so fast to get there I didn't know what had happened to him in the short time since I left him. I got to his room and he told me thanks for coming back so quick" and then he told me they were going to take him for more exrays and he wanted me to push his bed over to the exray room. He didn't want to go alone so there we went him in his bed and me wheeling him down the hallway. He only let me out of the room because they told him no one could be in the room when the exray was taken. My Mom had surgery a few times same thing was there for her making sure she got the best care. Her last surgery was one she should have done well with but she didn't and the day that she really took a turn for the worse I was so upset and I told her I was having her life flighted to another hospital she said " no its in Gods hands if I am supposed to live I will and if not its in Gods hands" we cried and begged her to let us get her out of there she said no well that night we were with her and she passed away. And I was correct they did do some thing wrong and that is why we lost her. So I understand how much your hurting trying to what you think is in their best interests. I guess with all this going on you had to tone down all the holiday baking and cooking. I swear I always picture you in your kitchen with your Mom and cookie sheets going in and out of the oven and every thing cooking on the stove. That's the way it was when my Mom , sister-law and friend were alive here my sister and I and the other ones were in this kitchen pots and pans were flying around cookies baking etc. Now everyone is gone so there is my sister, her daughter, my daughter and son moving around getting ready for the holidays. We have a good time but there is a void with out the others. I bet those little grandchildren of yours are really growing and trying to be the little boss in the house. I am so glad you have them. Jerz just make sure you take care of your self you have to realize if you get sick then things will fall apart. With your constant care and worry about everyone getting the best care its going to take a toll on you so watch your health. I have to say since I started reading here I always thought you are one good and caring daughter, your parents are blessed to have you for their daughter. Hope things improve for your Mom and your Dad.We lost my Dad when he was 72 and my Mom at 76 the best parents who not only loved us kids but they loved each other never ever heard them use a swear word to each other. Hope they can do something for your Moms shoulder my son is having a lot of trouble with his. Made my day seeing you on here always wonder how you are. Keep praying and I will say some prayers for your family.

[Jerzgirl]

Thank you for your kind words, cater, I deeply appreciate it. I'm sorry for you losses, it's a hole in your heart, void in your life that will never be filled...but the memories are forever. That's one loss I never want to feel, I don't even want to think about it!! With both my parents issues, it's like when it rains, it pours.

As far as our Holidays, well my mother was released from the nursing home/rehab 2 weeks before Christmas. It was a crazy & busy, busy time! There also had to be some sort of normalcy because of the kids. Between taking care of my father(cooking & cleaning ) and running back and forth for my mother, running my own house, taking my mother for walks, taking her home for day trips, cooking my mother special meals, dealing with the Dr's and going to meetings Etc, it was very overwhelming, but we did it!

The Holidays were not the same as far as my mother was concerned; she couldn't really cook and was so tired and tired so quickly and that upset me seeing my mother that way..she aged if that makes sense. Nevertheless, she is alive!!!!!!!!!!!

The grandkids!!! Now that makes me smile ear to ear!!! OMG how I love them!! They are simply amazing!! The best feeling in the world!!!! Gianna Marie IS the boss! Seriously, I don't think the word no is in my vocabulary when it comes to those kids!

Smart good, good kids, truly. Very Blessed. They are my life. The love just continues to grow deeper and deeper, it's a very powerful type of love. I'm very in love!

It was nice talking with you cater. Again, thank you for your kind words and advice. Take very good care of yourself! Happy Easter to you and your family!!

Jerz