Community Chat

[catter70]

When I married at age 19, I didn't want an engagement ring. I wanted us to use the money towards a house which we got about a year later. Fast forward to Christmas of the 12th year and he gave me a small diamond engagement ring. Fast forward to 4 months later and he asked for a divorce. I wonder why he bothered. Guilty conscious? 

[Peaches McPhee]

I did not get the ring of my dreams, but it's ok with me.  Hubby picked it out on his own.

[Still Stylish Lady]

Mine was a single blue sapphire set in gold. It was a ring that DH's mother gave him to use. It was stolen years later when I was going to college. He gave me a replacement a couple years ago after seeing it on JTV. I also got a 3 diamond ring (before,now,after) a few years before that. 

[patbz]

When I got married I was nearly 40 and buying a home and DH was broke and divorced.  We picked out our rings together and they match (lost wax); mine has 3 scattered diamonds (largest 3/4 carat).  I already owned a lot of fine jewelry from working in Asia and we intended to travel ( more than 80 countries so far).  I was concerned about getting an ostentatious ring ( didn't want to call attention to it while overseas).  I've only seen one similar ring in 37 years we've been married ( a stewardess).  Even with our cautious approach, when we went to Brazil we went without our bands ( many on our ship got mugged, glad we were careful.

[chickenbutt]

My husband chose the ring.  But, first, here's the original bit - The first time he asked me to marry him he presented me with this marquis cut solitaire that was positively dreadful.  That wasn't why I declined but, oh boy, not a marquis.  I don't remember what I might have said about the ring, if anything, but I feel like somehow or other it got transmitted that I am not a fan of the marquis cut.

FF to a few years later when he proposed the next time.  My ring just has one round brilliant, 2ct, stone and a wide-ish band with a bit of a design.  It looks nice.    

I have a few different bands.  One is just a regular wide wedding ring type band in 18k.  One is a thin little 14k ring with tiny diamonds around the front (bezel set).  One is the one and only diamonique piece I have.  It's a 14k band with little diamonique stones all the way around, also bezel set (I prefer that for a band-type situation - I don't want prongs) and, although I'm not a fan of costume jewelry, it really is very beautiful.  As long as you stick with tiny stones, diamonique (at least back then) is very pretty.

[shoesnbags]

Something I've found interesting about engagement rings and wedding sets in general is the way styles have changed over the years.  When I got married in the early 70s, the style for engagement rings was a solitaire diamond, often with a Florentine texture on the otherwise plain bands.  I thought I was being very much an individual by getting a teardrop shaped stone, mounted at an angle on the basketweave textured band.  The engagement ring had a wide band, while the matching wedding band was very narrow.  

As an aside, my mom's post WWII engagement ring and wedding ring both were fancy, with lots of diamonds in the setting and on the bands.  My 22 yr old self thought that her rings were just sooooo old fashioned.

But as time went by, those more ornate settings came back in style and our plain solitaires looked just plain (and dated).  So many of my friends and contemporaries have changed their rings or at least the settings over the years, but I would never be able to change my rings.  

We'll celebrate our 50th anniversary this year, and when I look down at my hand I want to see the same ring that sweet young guy put on my finger all of those years ago.

[Grand Happy]

We picked our Rings out together, great memory.
We've been married almost 40 yrs, WOW how time flies. My diamond isn't huge, it's perfect for our perfect Love ❤️

[jeanlake]

Enjoyed your stories. We married shortly after college and were busy adjusting to the world of adulting. We shopped together and I selected 3 rings I liked. He bought the least expensive and had enough money left over to buy new set of golf clubs and a stereo. (Hubs is all grown up now - and gets how self centered he was back then) Skinny me wore a size 5 ring. After first child, I placed a birthstone ring in my engagement ring and gave it to my neice for her 16th birthday. Bought myself what I wanted - a wonderful, quality white gold, wide, checkerboard cut band ring. Love my ring. 

[Irish1210]

@Jk9   

I'm an emerald girl, I'm a trillion girl, and I'm a platinum girl~~

    SWOONING : )

[Glittergal]

I'm a jewelry fanatic who loves gems and diamonds.  I always wanted a perfect single stone in a timeless setting.  I didn't care about size as long as the sparkle was blinding.  I got a conflict free 1 1/2 ct solitaire in the classic yellow gold Tiffany setting with rhodium prongs.  It's perfect!  It's like a light on my hand.  I love it every time I look at it, and smile to remember my guy propsing to me on a hike to a waterfall.  I love the simplicity of the solitaire so much that I didn't even want a wedding band.  I still don't have a wedding band 17 years later, and I don't mind at all.