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[WenGirl42]

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@Noel7 wrote:

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If the invitation said NO CHILDREN would you bring some children because you know they like kids?

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Because a child is so much like a bottle of wine or a scarf.  I'd choose a different analogy.

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@Noel7

No, because no means no.  But, as a child free person, your answer gave me giggles!

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As a person who had a child, @Drythe  I would never have brought her to an adult party, or any party unless she was on the invitation. 

An analogy is to show the similarity of two things.  Call me far out, but I do not see a child as similar to a scarf.  Or even a bottle of wine, or anything but a child, maybe a big active puppy, I would consider the bounding puppy as analogous to a child 

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I'd love for you to provide a better analogy of something else people might ask their friends not to bring to their parties.  Hmmmm.  What if someone requested no alcohol?  Would her friends be justified in bringing wine to the party because "I know she likes this kind" or "we can just share it at the party"?  We can all agree a bottle of wine is similar enough to a bottle of wine to allow for the comparison, right?

[jackthebear]

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I often think hosts state "no gifts" so guests don't feel obligated to bring a present. And sometimes having to purchase a gift might be the reason some decline the invitation.

I always bring a gift. The value of that gift might be different when the invite states no gifts, but I bring a gift.

ETA: I have never been refused admittance or sent home for bringing a gift.😊

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Usually no gifts means they want want more stuff, and the ancillary stuff that goes along with it, transporting it and storing at home, then writing TY notes etc.  

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[GCR18]

I would do as the card says and not bring a gift.  He wants presence, so I'd clear my schedule to be able to stay the entire time.

[SaRina]

No. It doesn't make sense to bring a gift if it was specifically requested not to. There is a reason he made the request -- it may make him feel uncomfortable, he may feel it makes others uncomfortable. Also, you will make others feel awkward if you bring a gift and they honored his request.

[sunshine45]

we had a birthday party for my moms 75th a couple of years ago. it was a sit down luncheon for about 60 people.

on the invitation we did have printed "please no gifts, your presence is present enoiugh."

about half of the people did bring something to give her.

we had a small table set up in the corner for them and she took them home with her instead of opening them there.

yes, i am one of those people that WOULD bring a gift no matter what it said, even if it was a gift of booze, wine, flowers, candy,  or something else small. sue me. LOL

[CrazyDaisy]

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If the invitation said NO CHILDREN would you bring some children because you know they like kids?

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Because a child is so much like a bottle of wine or a scarf.  I'd choose a different analogy.

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If the invitation said NO CHILDREN would you bring some children because you know they like kids?

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Because a child is so much like a bottle of wine or a scarf.  I'd choose a different analogy.

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No I  think i am good, if you don't agree thats OK

 

[hennypenny]

Cherry is right, doing something personal is the best gift of all.

Write something clever, and if you have a picture to add it is a wonderful idea.

[suzyQ3]

If a person does not want gifts, then I would not give a gift -- of any kind. If others do, that's fine. But I take a person at his word. I'd never conclude that it was just something a person says but doesn't mean.

[Iwantcoffee]

I would not take a gift.

[VaBelle35]

This was an interesting read.  It never would have occurred to me to bring a gift, but now I would do what was suggested above and go to my gift closet and pick something out and leave it in the car in case everyone else brought gifts.