Re: You Tuber Who Re-homed Her Adopted Child

Kachina624 · ‎03-10-2010

@Cakers3 I did read this entire post and this I do know. Adoption is a legal process requiring the approval of a judge and cannot be undone on the say-so of an adoption agency. Usually a judge will require the family seek counseling and the services of child behavioral specialists in an effort to alleviate the problem. There are many services ready and available to help in these situations. If this was done, it's not mentioned. In fact, there was scant factual information. Perhaps the OP should not have initiated the post without more information.

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Wsmom · ‎03-09-2010

When I read the article last night I felt it was like I see on facebook all the time whey people want to "rehome" their pet. Very poor choice of words IMO. They have four other kids. I wonder if they will wonder if they don't live up to mommy and daddy's expectations will they be rehomed. Very sad situation all the way around.

@Kachina624 , from the articles I read they didn't go into any factual information other than it was too much for them to handle and they did not know ahead of time that he had autism, etc.

mom2four0418 · ‎04-23-2010

@Wsmom wrote:
When I read the article last night I felt it was like I see on facebook all the time whey people want to "rehome" their pet. Very poor choice of words IMO. They have four other kids. I wonder if they will wonder if they don't live up to mommy and daddy's expectations will they be rehomed. Very sad situation all the way around.

@Kachina624 , from the articles I read they didn't go into any factual information other than it was too much for them to handle and they did not know ahead of time that he had autism, etc.

They knew about the brain tumor before they agreed to adopt him.

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GenXmuse · ‎05-15-2016

Maybe if she spent less time on social media and YouTube...

I really hope that little boy gets the best care possible in the home of a family who can give him the attention he deserves.

I think it was poor judgement to adopt a special needs kids with four kids in the home already. They raised a lot of money with their monetized videos and pleas for financial help. Hopefully, this is his "forever home".

DottieBlue · ‎03-11-2010

But so often, when friends and neighbors find out that someone has killed a child or severely abused them because the parent couldn't cope, they often say "we didn't know! Why didn't they reach out for help before it was too late?"

Well, these people couldn't handle the child so they DID reach out for help. I don't think they should be criticized for that.

However, I think people need to think very hard about adopting more kids when they already have 4 kids.

First priority: whatever is in the best interest of the child.

These people made a mistake by taking a handicapped child they then discovered they couldn't handle, and then reached out for help and fortunately got it.

JMO.

Cakers3 · ‎06-17-2015

@Kachina624 wrote:
@Cakers3 I did read this entire post and this I do know. Adoption is a legal process requiring the approval of a judge and cannot be undone on the say-so of an adoption agency. Usually a judge will require the family seek counseling and the services of child behavioral specialists in an effort to alleviate the problem. There are many services ready and available to help in these situations. If this was done, it's not mentioned. In fact, there was scant factual information. Perhaps the OP should not have initiated the post without more information.

@Kachina624 Your post indicated that the adoptive parents were making the decision as to the qualifications of the new adoptive parents and that was not true. I was responding to that point. Also it was never said that the adoption agency made the decision alone.

Obviously the agency would be involved as well as the medical professionals and whatever legal courses needed to be followed.

We all know that there are legal ramifications and I'm sure the lawyers are well versed in the adoption laws of that state.

This family did not know about Huxley's issues until the child arrived in the USA. It was at that point that they sought for help-medically and educationally for him. However it has been indicated that they did know Huxley had some issues but the severity was not disclosed.

The medical professionals advised that Huxley would fare better in another home-one where the potential new mother is medically trained.

People here are acting as though this couple just handed the child over-it's the usual dump on somebody they don't kinow personally nor took the time to look up the facts.

The OP opened the door and gave her pov.

The rest, for the most part, turned into what a horrible person this mother is (notice the father isn't mentioned).

It is unfair and I always find it troubling how quick people are to judge without even knowing what the heck they are talking about. At that point it isn't a pov; it's mere gossip with no basis in fact.

I'm not directing this at you as far as the bash against this mother, however.

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Sushismom · ‎03-09-2010

Would some of you prefer the child stay with parents who are unable to cope?

Wsmom · ‎03-09-2010

In reading her instagram post in the People article she refers to "a lot of behaviors that have had us on our knees begging God for guidance". I wonder if perhaps he is violent and they were in fear for the safety of their other children, thus the placement in a home better prepared to help him. Perhaps a family with no other children. If this is the case, my heart truly breaks for them. I can't imagine.

CalminHeart · ‎03-09-2010

People shouldn't be allowed to adopt if they can't deal with all that comes with the child. It's beyond cruel to toss away a child. Imagine how that child feels. It makes me sad.

qualitygal · ‎10-04-2010

I'd rather a child was adopted by someone who can handle this situation and was honest enough to say it and tend to the child as it should be. When the news shows us what some parents do to their own children, (by birth), thank heavens this child will be safe.

I came back, someone on here mentioned a name and if it's them I wonder. A long time ago I use to watch that family. They indeed did pray, and cry and ask for guidance and they tried and tried to help the little boy they adopted. My heart went out to them. and they were and are probably some of the nicest people I can imagine. I don't know how they did it, I wouldn't have been able to. I only know, if you haven't walked in their shoes..........