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[GoneButNotForgotten]

...and it was a dud.

My DH and my sister had a nice time with me but my son an d.i.l. made it very clear they were too busy. I received a card and a phone call. My son dropped off a card on my front porch--he never even rang the bell or knocked and therefore was "unable" to greet me in person. 

We had wanted to get together on Sunday but his daughter--my granddaughter--had Sunday school and a swimming lesson (on Sunday? but...whatever) and God forbid that she miss those activities just once so we could all be together.

My d.i.l.'s birthday (and their 10th anniversary) is later this month and I will give her/them exactly what I received: nothing.

Do I sound p*sed off and petulant? Probably I do...and that's exactly how I feel. I wish I were big enough to rise above feeling this way but I'm hurt and angry. I've been sick a lot recently and neither of them has inquired about me. They've known that my birthday was coming up and my feeling is that if you really want to do something, you'll find a way.

Oh--and my daughter-in-law mentioned that her family is treating her to a nice bruncheon at a local resaurant on her birthday, therefore letting me know I'm not invited. Sometimes I wonder if she was raised by wolves. 

[faeriemoon]

@GoneButNotForgotten I'm so sorry your birthday was a dud. 

Happy Belated Birthday.

[KKlim]

@Gonebutnotforgotten…I’m sorry your children + family were not nice to u on your birthday. It’s a shame. A Happy Belated bday to u..!

[meallen616]

@GoneButNotForgotten,

[deepwaterdotter]

My immediate family must also be "wolves".  They didn't invite my in-laws to my birthday meals.  My in-laws never expressed their displeasure at not being invited, or I would have made sure they were included.

I wish you a belated Happy Birthday.

[QVCkitty1]

Here is something I have learned and it serves me well, " If they wanted to , they would. " 

[Trinity11]

Why aren't you concentrating on the good time you had with your husband and sister? I learned the last few years that we cannot make people be who we want them to be. Be thankful you have someone to celebrate with.

I am speaking from experience here. I spent years mourning a relationship that will never be what I want it to be. It nearly broke me but now I try and practice gratitude for what I do have. My health improved and it brought me a lot more peace than when I was mourning what could never be...

Happy Belated Birthday @GoneButNotForgotten. I wish you happiness, joy, acceptance and peace.💐

[NicksmomESQ]

@GoneButNotForgotten  Happy belated birthday!! 🎂🎈💐

  You teach people how to treat you. I think you should have a talk with your son. You're not a doormat,your his mother.At this point you have nothing to lose.

 I'm close to my son & DIL. I don't pick on everything they do or not do,but on the occasion that something does bother me,I have a private chat with my son & we work it out. He does the same.No one's perfect.

 I hope you can work it out.Life is too short & tomorrow isn't promised.

 If you can't work it out,concentrate on the people who love & appreciate you. I do realize through personal experience, that sometimes you can't move the immovable. But atleast you will know that you tried.

[Love my grandkids]

@Trinity11 I can tell you why. She is sad because that is her child. I don't know if you have kids but this is why she is hurt and sad, to have you own child be so dismissive of you.

[Daisy Sunflower]

Happy Belated Birthday !!