Community Chat

[JesssMe]

5 pages of chat about a question that we don't even know what it was?  Beem me up Scotty!

[Bjobrit]

No, I know I wouldn’t.  Had a friend who lied all the time.  The key word is “had”.

[Cakers3]

If one expects a favor to be granted, it is no longer a favor; it has now become an expectation and possibly an imposition for the person to grant said favor.

A favor is a mutually accepted interchange between persons; once it becomes an expectation, the favor is now a demand.

I think the OP is a good person but I think she is looking at this from only her perception of how another person "SHOULD" respond to something she required for herself.

[KentuckyWoman]

Some people have a hard time saying no, I can't do that or no I don't want to so they make up an "excuse" so they don't have to say no.  I understand how you feel but I honestly don't know what to tell you.  If she doesn't live nearby, it may not be as much of a problem to let go if that's what you want.

[occasionalrain]

Asking for a favor puts the person  who is asked on the spot which is considered bad manners. Instead one should mention the issue/problem so the person is free to volunteer, offer a suggestion, or just sympathize. Two wrongs don't make a right. The OP was wrong to put her friend on the spot and the friend was wrong to make up an excuse.

[esmerelda]

If you’re going to cut her loose anyway, confront her about the lie so she’ll at least know why. 

[GenXmuse]

I wouldn’t end a friendship over this unless you were just looking for a reason anyway. 

[lovescats]

maybe the friend gave a ridiculous reason not to do the favor because she was looking for a reason to end the friendship

[Bestdressed]

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[speedy girl]

Maybe she just didn't want to or couldn't do the favor you asked of her, so she didn't want to hurt your feelings by saying no. I think I would let it go and give her the benefit of the doubt.