Community Chat

[PurpleBunny]

I would send regrets and then next time you see them in person, bring them a congratulatory bottle of wine or something. 

[Trinity11]

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@151949 wrote:

Honestly, we did not even know they weren't married. Their daughter graduated from HS last year and I gave her a card & a gift card so I guess now they have us labeled as an easy mark.

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You just said they were friendly in another post. Why ask here if you already made up your mind about them?

An easy mark? What an unfortunate way to look at life in general. Two people are getting married and wanted you to share in their happiness.

[151949]

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@Evie2004 wrote:

whenever we have received a wedding invitation, it usually starts with "Mr & Mrs John Doe invite you to the wedding of their daughter, Jane Doe, to blah, blah, blah" so we can usually figure out who the wedding is for..

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They are rarely stated like that these days. Esp. a couple who are the ages of these two.

[CelticCrafter]

I definitely wouldn't send a gift...

[NativeJax]

@151949...

I made a simple error and my opinion of your rudeness still stands.

[Catty2]

Several years ago when I got an invitation like this I got them a gift card and a pretty wedding card and mailed it saying that I was unable to attend. 

[Mominohio]

Haven't read the replies, so don't know if you addressed just what kind of business you do with them (are you the customer or are they?), but in general, I would not at all feel obligated to gift this occasion.

If it comes up when you go back home, (and it most likely won't) I'd simply relay the fact that your husband has medical issues (I think you posted he is having surgery before you go back) and you were unable to follow your regular schedule and commitments. But you don't need an 'excuse' or explanation at all. People invite, then take what comes.

[NYC Susan]

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@RetRN wrote:

I really don't care what you do. We don't know these people or their relationship with you. I would think you could figure out what to do since you know the people. I can't imagine why this would be such a difficult decision. 

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People ask questions like this all the time.  These are forums - It's pretty much part of what forums are.

"I really don't care what you do" is unnecessarily harsh.  If you really don't care, then perhaps you should have scrolled on by.

[skuggles]

I only send gifts when I genuinely desire to give one. I don't let social norms dictate my behavior when it comes to gift giving.

[NYC Susan]

I would send my regrets, and then bring a gift once I arrived in the area.  It doesn't have to be expensive  - just an acknowledgement of the happy occasion.

Count me among those who doesn't view every invitation with suspicion.