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09-29-2015 06:59 PM
Probably yes. But I'd treat it as a gift, not a loan, so I am not upset when (if) it does not get paid back. If I can't afford to give it away, I would not lend it.
09-29-2015 07:03 PM
Question:
What if they asked for $1000 & the next day they were sporting a new handbag & new clothes? Do you feel you have a say how they spend your lent money?
09-29-2015 07:04 PM
Loan money to a family member? Never again. That is unless I don't care about getting it back some day.
Many years ago I loaned (she knew it was a loan) my older sister a substantial amount of money so she could move from another state back home. It also included money for attorney fees as she was divorcing her then husband and they had a young pre-school age daughter. She did not want the father to have visitation rights but had no valid legal reason for the request.
After several years of no payments, not even a small amount, I wrote it off thinking I would never get any money back, not even a partial payment. So, imagine my surprise when she mailed me partial payment for the loan over 25 years after the initial loan. Then, afterwards, she complained to another sister because I did not send her a thank you letter for the return of my money. I never could figure her logic on that ... my money, my loan.
Needless to say, I no longer have a good relationship with the sister in question. That is her fault, not mine. I will never loan her money again for any reason. She taught me that lesson well.
09-29-2015 07:05 PM
I did once and to my surprise they paid it back in full. I didn't expect that to happen. I have not been approached again by anyone. My feeling is I would look at the situation, decide if I could afford it and then give not expecting any money back. We are now retired and I think I would have to be comfortable with the amount.
I never buy gifts for my family. I just give gift cards and let them pick what they need or want.
09-29-2015 07:21 PM
It would totally depend on which friend, and which family member. Yes to the few who would even ask, as I would know it was a dire situation, and I would do what I could to help.
09-29-2015 07:22 PM
@sidsmom wrote:Question:
What if they asked for $1000 & the next day they were sporting a new handbag & new clothes? Do you feel you have a say how they spend your lent money?
how would i know how, where, and when or if they purchased them.....if they purchased them at all? i would not presume that they used the money for THAT. i loan the money and i dont second guess what they told me they needed it for.
09-29-2015 07:29 PM
No.
09-29-2015 08:05 PM
I've loaned money to a co-worker when they didn't have lunch money. That's the extent of what I'd loan.
09-29-2015 08:10 PM
I have to the kids, small amounts. When I have parted with large amounts, it was a gift, not a loan. Loaning money to friends and family can eat you alive.
I know a friend who did loan a friend of hers 10,000. She went to the bank, and made it like a loan. She had a payment book and everything drawn up. It was interest free to her friend. It worked out really well that way. Foe her anyway.
09-29-2015 08:10 PM
Absolutely, unequivocally NO!!!
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