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@blackhole99 - sounds like your in-laws are related to mine!

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I believe every word of that. Yes, it's horrible, but why do people let in some instances, other people even have access to their children.  Why do children kill other children and even their own parents.  This world is scary!  I don't know what makes people hurt other people or animals, I'll never understand that!!

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People are crazy.  Watched Dr. Phil yesterday and the husband's parents were criticizing his wife for "tearing the family apart" because - among other things she refused to allow her two small boys to spend time at their house where the grandfather acknowledged he had open bottles of alcohol (that's just me and nobody is going to tell me I can't do that.) and she went ballistic when the grandparents drove somewhere with the two boys on their laps (one of the other siblings was driving) because they didn't have car seats and the husband who was supposed to bring them hadn't and what did she expect them to do?  When she responded - I expect you NOT to drive without car seats - they again said that was an example of her unreasonableness.

 

The good news was the husband was backing his wife.  But his family was definitely over the top.

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No way!  Just because you can have children, it doesn't mean that you should.  There really should be a test for stupidity before you can reproduce.


@sheilababe In most cases there are common denominators: low income, little education, and zero common sense. The poor little kids pay the price. Very sad.

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If he's never visited before, he would possibly get lost anyway, dementia or not. 

 

And there are many stages to dementia.  He is possibly only in the early stages which is why she felt comfortable letting them go for what was probably supposed to be a short stroll.

 

I really don't think the parents also have dementia and did what's being suggested here.  No need to go think the worst of everyone.  If they did, CPS will be at their door.

 

The parents probably thought he was perfectly capable but it didn't dawn on them that if he did lose his way he couldn't ask for help if he needed it because of the language barrier.

 

All's well that ended well and I am sure big lesson learned.


@Laura14 That’s the whole point...the parents are stupid!!  And, I’ll bet CPS will be at their door eventually!

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If he's never visited before, he would possibly get lost anyway, dementia or not. 

 

And there are many stages to dementia.  He is possibly only in the early stages which is why she felt comfortable letting them go for what was probably supposed to be a short stroll.

 

I really don't think the parents also have dementia and did what's being suggested here.  No need to go think the worst of everyone.  If they did, CPS will be at their door.

 

The parents probably thought he was perfectly capable but it didn't dawn on them that if he did lose his way he couldn't ask for help if he needed it because of the language barrier.

 

All's well that ended well and I am sure big lesson learned.


@Laura14 That’s the whole point...the parents are stupid!!  And, I’ll bet CPS will be at their door eventually!


@Mimi 1883  The parents made a mistake.  I highly doubt they intentionally put their child in harm's way. 

 

Let's have some compassion for other human beings who make human errors.  I am sure the fear and panic they experienced during the event is more than enough punishment and incentive to make sure it doesn't happen again.  

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If he's never visited before, he would possibly get lost anyway, dementia or not. 

 

And there are many stages to dementia.  He is possibly only in the early stages which is why she felt comfortable letting them go for what was probably supposed to be a short stroll.

 

I really don't think the parents also have dementia and did what's being suggested here.  No need to go think the worst of everyone.  If they did, CPS will be at their door.

 

The parents probably thought he was perfectly capable but it didn't dawn on them that if he did lose his way he couldn't ask for help if he needed it because of the language barrier.

 

All's well that ended well and I am sure big lesson learned.


@Laura14 That’s the whole point...the parents are stupid!!  And, I’ll bet CPS will be at their door eventually!


@Mimi 1883  The parents made a mistake.  I highly doubt they intentionally put their child in harm's way. 

 

Let's have some compassion for other human beings who make human errors.  I am sure the fear and panic they experienced during the event is more than enough punishment and incentive to make sure it doesn't happen again.  


@Laura14 I have compassion for that poor child, NOT for his stupid parents and the idiotic grandfather who puts the kid in a stroller to take a walk in frigid temperatures!

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If he's never visited before, he would possibly get lost anyway, dementia or not. 

 

And there are many stages to dementia.  He is possibly only in the early stages which is why she felt comfortable letting them go for what was probably supposed to be a short stroll.

 

I really don't think the parents also have dementia and did what's being suggested here.  No need to go think the worst of everyone.  If they did, CPS will be at their door.

 

The parents probably thought he was perfectly capable but it didn't dawn on them that if he did lose his way he couldn't ask for help if he needed it because of the language barrier.

 

All's well that ended well and I am sure big lesson learned.


@Laura14 That’s the whole point...the parents are stupid!!  And, I’ll bet CPS will be at their door eventually!


@Mimi 1883  The parents made a mistake.  I highly doubt they intentionally put their child in harm's way. 

 

Let's have some compassion for other human beings who make human errors.  I am sure the fear and panic they experienced during the event is more than enough punishment and incentive to make sure it doesn't happen again.  


@Laura14 I have compassion for that poor child, NOT for his stupid parents and the idiotic grandfather who puts the kid in a stroller to take a walk in frigid temperatures!


@Mimi 1883 I hope you are not judged as harshly when you also misjudge a situation or person's ability.  Eventually you will because all of us do.

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We all make mistakes and have lapses in judgement.Thankfully everything turned out ok.I remember reading once that we are all just seconds away from potential disaster and that just a minute of time could change everything.I feel blessed to have made mistakes that didn't result in tragedy and to have learned from them.

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First of all, baby aside, I wouldn't let an elderly man or woman with dementia go out for a walk alone in the first place. There is story after story about dementia individuals wandering away alone and none of them end well.