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‎01-07-2015 12:24 PM
On 1/6/2015 lizzief said: After reading many of the posts, but not all so I may have missed something, has anyone been inside your neighbor's apt to see what's causing the noise? Most leases have a provision that allows the landlord or their agent to enter the premises for cause. Call me crazy, but could the noise be simply from some sort of exercise equipment? That's the first thing I thought of! A Total Gym, weights, rowing machine, something with a repetitive motion? Just a thought. All of this talk about eviction, and that she's wacky, has anyone actually talked to the neighbor or did I miss something? Maybe there is a simple explanation. Just sayin'!
I have never spoken to the woman. In fact I have only seen her once walking down the hallway from the back. The Manager has spoken to her multiple times, as have the other two neighbors on the other side of her. They were approached by her demanding to know if either of them was the one complaining about her. They say she is "weird." She wears a carpenter's belt around her waist with tools hanging from it.
When the Manager visited me yesterday I asked her if she had been inside the apartment to see if there was any damage and she said "no." She obviously does not want to handle this issue and said in all of her years of managing two communities for the owner company, the only reason she has had to evict anyone was for nonpayment of rent. She has never faced this situation before. She then told me to call the police any time I want to, which I assume she meant don't call her, also which I never did. The maintenace man also wants no interraction with her. They are either not required to handle issues like this, or they don't want the aggravation.
The noise is hammering, thumping from both ends of the apartment . . . and my neighbor on the other side of her says constant slamming of all cabinet doors, drawers in the kitchen and noisy handling of pots and pans, which I don't hear. She obviously does everything as noisily as she can.
The gym thing has been brought up several times within this thread. It is not gym equipment. It's a hammer banging on the walls . . . anyone could identify it.
Supposedly, she gets the letter from the corporate owners today. My expectation is that will not stop her, as nothing else has stopped her. I also expect that perhaps the owners are not going to follow up, as they are not located in this area. Eventually, it will be up to me what I will do about it if it continues, and my inclination is not to confront, but to run, which I will probably do. Unfortunately, that will be much more expensive for me since there are no other rentals this low in this area. This apartment community is rated one of the five best communities for seniors with fixed incomes on the entire east coast.
‎01-07-2015 12:55 PM
Didn't you say in another thread, you were going to consolidate households and get a bigger place for you and your daughter?
Maybe this is a sign that you should go ahead with that plan.
‎01-07-2015 01:53 PM
The woman obviously has a mental problem.
‎01-07-2015 01:59 PM
This whole thing sounds as if it's being mishandled by the building management and owners. Any owner (or his representative) has a right to enter and inspect the premises as long as the occupant is given reasonable notice. Laws may differ from place to place but it's usually 24 to 48 hours. They can even request the police to be there at the time if they fear what may happen. This should be done as it might provide grounds for an eviction and/or indicate if this woman is indeed mentally disturbed and possibly a danger to herself or others. Sitting back and telling the other tenants to call the police is not the answer. That's just abdicating the management's responsibility to ensure all the tenants a safe and peaceful environment in which to live. I would contact the owner directly if I were Ford. And since this apartment community has a high rating (which I'm sure the owners are proud of), I would remind them of the damage that reputation will incur if word of this situation becomes public as it will if the police have to come repeatedly.
‎01-07-2015 02:05 PM
On 1/7/2015 muttmom said:<br />
Didn't you say in another thread, you were going to consolidate households and get a bigger place for you and your daughter?
Maybe this is a sign that you should go ahead with that plan.
That was my line of thinking. If the owners of this apartment do not live in the area, most likely they're not going to care or get involved in a dispute of this nature. If this woman pays her rent, that is probably all that matters to them.
‎01-07-2015 02:51 PM
On 1/7/2015 YorkieonmyPillow said:On 1/7/2015 muttmom said:<br />
Didn't you say in another thread, you were going to consolidate households and get a bigger place for you and your daughter?
Maybe this is a sign that you should go ahead with that plan.
That was my line of thinking. If the owners of this apartment do not live in the area, most likely they're not going to care or get involved in a dispute of this nature. If this woman pays her rent, that is probably all that matters to them.
Yes I did, and that is what I am researching now. I just have to convince her she is not jeopardizing the good deal I have here, when she feels her future is unknown. She's afraid of letting me down. I have found a remarkably good place for us, with an extremely affordable rent. It's a half hour from here, not that far, and only three years old. It's a third floor apartment/townhouse community, and this apartment would be available at the right time for her. It's a third floor, two master bedroom, two bathroom spacious apartment, with clubhouse/pool facilities, wood floors, 9 foot vaulted ceiling, it's really nice. There is an elevator, and it comes with all appliances, including washer/dryer, which no one else offers. I can't believe the rent, we could easily afford it. I'm just not sure I can convince her to live with me because she feels so strongly that I have it so good here, which I had, but not anymore. We'll see.
‎01-07-2015 03:27 PM
Good luck Ford..
Hopefully after her appt tomorrow..(I think that is it..) she will be ready to make some decisions. I think she is probably hoping for the cure/miracle from this MD..and unfortunately I doubt it is going to be the instant sucess she is looking for.
At this point in time..the only thing she can do is treat the symptoms..depression and pain..they can both be treated successfully..even though they may be secondary to Lymes until a time comes when it is a accepted disability she can only do what she can do.
I think getting in a apt with you..if you can afford it is great..it sounds like a win/win situation no matter what..the accommodations sound luxurious..and not sure what deal she would be messing up for you now?? This could also give her some buying time to get herself together..and I don't mean that in a bad manner.
‎01-07-2015 03:31 PM
The new apartment sounds wonderful! Having a back up plan must make you feel so much better about just being able to walk away from the disturbed/disturbing neighbor if necessary.
‎01-07-2015 04:09 PM
On 1/7/2015 Clover29 said:The new apartment sounds wonderful! Having a back up plan must make you feel so much better about just being able to walk away from the disturbed/disturbing neighbor if necessary.
If I can get my daughter to agree to doing this, yes, it would be a solution for her and for me. Her lease is up on April 1, and these apartments are available April 9. She has to move, she can no longer afford to stay in the house she's in, the rent is too high and she had to stop working and can't get disability because they don't recognize her illness. She does get alimony, but it's not enough. This isn't going to make her well, but it would solve her problem of where she's going to live. It's going to be up to her.
‎01-07-2015 04:14 PM
Ford,
I remember reading about your daughter's Lyme disease previously on these boards. I have a friend who experienced joint pain, depression, and fatigue for years until she got a diagnosis of tertiary Lyme disease that was successfully treated with antibiotics.
I realize that your daughter has not responded to the usual antibiotic treatment, so I just did a little online research and found an excellent article in the New York Times that I thought you might want to look at [if you haven't already]. Here's the link:
When Lyme Disease Lasts and Lasts - http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/07/08/when-lyme-disease-lasts-and-lasts/?_r=0
This is just one article in a list of articles that can be found on this webpage: http://www.nytimes.com/health/guides/disease/lyme-disease-chronic-persistent/overview.html
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