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[Twins Mom]

Discussions about weddings and purging stuff got me to thinking... what would you do differently starting out as newlyweds if you could redo?

I remember running out to sales and buying things that I thought I would need as I set up household. Fashions change, improvements are made, things mount up in closets, etc. Wait until need arises. Don't fall for sales hype.

[jlkz]

Never went overboard with shopping: too busy working and getting my Masters degree.  To do over, I would not work as hard...too many unpaid overtime hours.  As a consultant later on, I would have billed at an appropriate rate vs. discounted to get started.

I also would have been more outspoken ( lol !!! ) if possible rather than a behind- the-scene manager.

Still, it wasn't that bad !

[151949]

I don't think I bought much as a new bride. I had a few showers and back in 1969 people gave you practical things to help you set up your home for shower gifts, and wedding gifts. I got towels, blankets, sheets, glasses & knives,forks & spoons I still have in my camper, a set of dishes from my parents, a set of corning ware pots from his Dad, which I still have 48 years later.As our wedding gift my folks gave us a set of end tables & coffee table and my grandparents gave us lamps and 2 clocks. I still have the lamps in my bedroom. We bought a set of bedroom furniture at an auction - an estate sale. I did buy some used chairs that I had to refinish and reupholster, and I think the only thing we bought brand new was a sofa. I can remember this time like it was yesterday. I was so excited to start my adult life. New career and new family.

[dex]

I would spend more time having fun together than working all of the time to get ahead...yes it paid off but to the "old me "things aren't as exciting as when I was young.

[CelticCrafter]

I would have made sure we bought what we thought would have been our dream home.

This was not, it was only supposed to be a starter home and here we are 38 years later...

[just bee]

Separate bathrooms.

[Bri21]

We both lived in our own before we got married, so we had some idea of what running a household was like.  Our style just kind of evolved over time. 

We traveled and spent a lot of time together just building a strong bond, really getting to know each other. 

[SaRina]

Work hard and save, which is what we did. Never had financial problems or debt.

[Citrine1]

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@CelticCrafter wrote:

I would have made sure we bought what we thought would have been our dream home.

This was not, it was only supposed to be a starter home and here we are 38 years later...

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I can relate to this @CelticCrafter.  We are still in our same home after 34 years and I'm at an age now where I realize I will probably never move.  I loved our house when we first got it and, to some degree, still do, but the neighborhood is going downhill and things just aren't the same.  

[pattypeep]

@Citrine1 @CelticCrafter You are both probably financially stable because of staying in your homes all these years. My dh and I marvel constantly about how many young folks have to have the best of the best, move around, upgrade, etc, etc. Not satisfied with just a nice home~it has to be top of the line in every respect. Then they either lose their homes (divorce?) or are so deeply in debt that they cannot get out.