Why do posts go off the subject or turn mean?

chiclet · ‎03-19-2010

It surprises me how someone can post and the responses that follow did not get the meaning of the original post and turn it into something else. Or responses are so hateful. It is like they can pick apart the topic and find something so negative to rage about. I saw one post about the decline of home shopping and then it became out the original poster being disrepectful about the older generation. I come on here to listen to different points of view and to get reviews and helpful information.

KingstonsMom · ‎03-09-2010

@chiclet

Some people are just like that. Always looking for or wanting to create an argument.

You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.

staciesmom · ‎04-13-2010

I wonder the same thing, but if you notice it's usually the same posters who are mean and snarky. I don't post very often due to the responses I'm sure to get. I think it's a problem in all forms of social media. Harry Slatkin just posted in a Facebook candle group that he was disappointed in the drama some people are causing. This is a group posting about candles! How sad that people seeking camaraderie and opinions about things get slammed and shamed.

GSPgirl · ‎01-03-2012

@chiclet wrote:
It surprises me how someone can post and the responses that follow did not get the meaning of the original post and turn it into something else. Or responses are so hateful. It is like they can pick apart the topic and find something so negative to rage about. I saw one post about the decline of home shopping and then it became out the original poster being disrepectful about the older generation. I come on here to listen to different points of view and to get reviews and helpful information.

This question had been asked since the beginning of these boards. It won’t stop. People have opinions.

Sweetbay magnolia · ‎04-14-2013

Words matter. It is easy for them to fall on deaf ears when spoken aloud, but in writing, intentions are sometimes misconstrued.

That's a beautiful thing about writing, too. Artists of the written word may have different interpretations in mind, or we simply see something we had not before, and it can be enlightening.

I'm with you, though. I avoid here, what I consider unnecessarily confrontational. That's what I come for, either!

Cogito ergo sum

Imaoldhippie · ‎06-10-2015

If you came here for different opinions that what you are reading. People are going to give their opinion as they should. Read the snarky, mean posts for just what they are, nothing, and move on.

LIFE IS TO SHORT TOO FOLD FITTED SHEETS

CalminHeart · ‎03-09-2010

I've read a lot of posts on these forums that don't make sense and/or could be taken a number of ways. Ignore them. Why let an anonymous person's comment take up space in your brain.

KingstonsMom · ‎03-09-2010

@GSPgirl wrote:
@chiclet wrote:
It surprises me how someone can post and the responses that follow did not get the meaning of the original post and turn it into something else. Or responses are so hateful. It is like they can pick apart the topic and find something so negative to rage about. I saw one post about the decline of home shopping and then it became out the original poster being disrepectful about the older generation. I come on here to listen to different points of view and to get reviews and helpful information.
This question had been asked since the beginning of these boards. It won’t stop. People have opinions.

@GSPgirl

And most people can convey their opinions in a constructive, respectful way.

Others just can't.....or don't want to.

You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.

Ruby Laine · ‎05-25-2016

So true, @chiclet.

I have lunch sometimes with a group of women who have varied opinions on politics, religion, and many other issues. We’ve been friends for many years.

We express opinions without rancor or a holier-than-thou attitude. Sometimes one of us will ask a question or for advice. We don’t act like it’s a stupid question or use sarcasm. We try to be this way with everyone.

We respect each other. And yes, somehow we still manage to share a lot of laughter and have a lot of fun!

OKPrincess · ‎03-10-2013

@CalminHeart wrote:
I've read a lot of posts on these forums that don't make sense and/or could be taken a number of ways. Ignore them. Why let an anonymous person's comment take up space in your brain.

I really like your last sentence. Well said!!