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[dex]

She has most likely experienced a lifetime of struggles due to her speech difficulties.She might have been crying out of frustration.her handicap is not visible so she won't get the immediate understanding or compassion that others could receive.

[Yardlie]

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@Carmie wrote:

Many of us have some form of handicaps that force us to do things differently than most other people.

if a person stutters so badly, why would they go to a drive up window of any kind?  Common sense should have told her that she must go inside.  Sometimes it’s impossible to understand each other when there are no speech problems present at the drive through.

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Sometimes stutterers can communicate fairly clearly, but things can set them off so that they cannot speak clearly. I had a childhood friend who was a stutterer. She spoke quite well when we played together, but if the teacher called on her in school or if kids bullied her, she would stutter very severely.

Obviously, this lady has gone through the drive-thru previously without problems. We don't know what this poor lady might have faced that upset her and caused her to stutter so badly.

[violann]

Live for one day with stuttering, or hearing impairments, or cerebral palsy, or a crossed eye or ACTUALLY ANY CONDITION THAT MAKES YOU DIFFERENT/LESS ADVANTAGED than anyone in the mainstream and THEN tell me how much you seek/enjoy being a victim.

Or perhaps MORE painful, AND EVEN LESS ATTENTION SEEKING, IS- be the loved one of someone with a situation that has to be dealt with every waking hour! See how much fun it is to watch you beautiful, dearly loved whatever live with the consequences of their less than perfect lives.

No, no, NO! Unless there is a concommitent situation in the affective domain of an individual, people with challenges do NOT seek attention, and DO NOT seek to capitalize on personal circumstances.

[violann]

@Isobel Archer- is “laryngitis” less embarrassing than stuttering? Do you suppose that the stutterer wasn’t aware every time she was obliged to speak that she was a stutterer? 

Please google “Annie Glenn” wife of the astronaut. In my opinion, a hero, not someone with laryngitis.

I truly dislike being so “in-your-face” about this, and I don’t want to seem as though I’ve targeted you or other posters, but this is a red flag to my personal bull.

[BirdieGal]

@violann

My son is disabled. I deal with this everyday. He knows he is different and has never ever felt the victim. 

People shy away from or shun what they do not personally understand or can relate with.

[qualitygal]

I have a dear relative who stutters.  He's a dear person and he knows us all and we just wait until he gets it out.  Not being self-conscious about having to hurry, he does really well, almost don't know.  (It's terribly painful for people who stutter, to not do this.)  Maybe she thought that day she could do that and tried.  It must be horribly frustrating.  There's reasons behind why people do this.  

Have you ever seen The King's Speech?  

I hope more people can be more patient with others who have this problem.  Maybe some day, you'll need other people to be patient with you.

[Isobel Archer]

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@software wrote:

How is asking her to come inside treating her badly?

I rarely go to the drive in myself but sitting at the ATM I've heard people ask complicated questions at the drive through and they've been asked to come inside.

I feel so sorry for her, she needs better coping skills.

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It was the whole sense of humiliation - she didn't think she could do any better saying what she needed inside as she was already so upset.

Another simple fix to this particular situation would have been to simply hand them a check for them to cash along with her ID.  Then she probably wouldn't have had to say anything in the first place - and if she did - again she could write a note.

[ValuSkr]

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@Isobel Archer wrote:

I just think that as many times as she must have experienced situations like this, she could make it so much easier for herself.

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How can she make it easier?  The hardest thing for many stutterers is to say their own name.  It leads to embarrassment after embarrassment - for their whole life.  It leaves a wound that doesn't heal.  Please try to be more sympathetic.

[Trinity11]

I have tremendous empathy for anyone having issues with their speech. I recently had a mild stroke after 2 heart attacks within 11 months. I notice a change in my speech..something I always prided myself on. Now I have a hesitancy on getting out words. It, literally, makes me sick.

As as far as the drive-in. Just try for one day living a life with disabilities. I, seriously doubt anyone would be giving advice on alternatives for this woman. Live it before giving alternative scenarios.