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[Anonymous032819]

....then get upset when advice is given?

I would think that when a person asks for advice, that they would know that they are going to get responses that they may not want to hear.

I am not referencing any specific thread or poster, just talking in general terms, but I am sure that we have all seen where poster "X" asks for advice, then gets mad when they get it.

My philosophy is, don't ask unless you want to hear some things that you might not like, and don't get mad if you asked for opinions.

[LyndaGee]

Maybe they already know what they should do, but are looking for some reassurance?  I feel bad for the people offering advice who are rebuffed.  They are only trying to help.

[Peaches McPhee]

My peeve is this:  When you give them advice, and then they come back and give an excuse as to why your advice won't work in their special situation.   It's just a suggestion!  

[Group 5 minus 1]

For many reasons:

Some people want different opinions because they just are at a crossroads

Some people are looking for people to agree w/them

Some people are looking for agreement so they can tell someone they asked and didn't agree can say see I told you so.

Some people are very sensitive and can not take critcism(probably should not ask for advice)

And I could go on.

[Big Joanie]

Human Nature maybe ..???

[Cakers3]

No matter the situation, the advice will fall on one of two sides-agreement or disagreement.

What I find troublesome is the accusation that an OP is being "bashed" when given an alternative suggestion or the suggestion does not fall into line with the general population on the thread.

We all know the difference when a poster is being insulted; it would be better if some would take the time to really read a response and understand where a poster is coming from because we all have our own distinct writing styles.

I'll stop with sometimes it's the poster and not the post.

[rms1954]

Why do people clearly not read a response  from a poster but turn around and accuse the responder of something that poster never said????  Many questions remain that we are unable to answer.

[Cakers3]

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@rms1954 wrote:

Why do people clearly not read a response  from a poster but turn around and accuse the responder of something that poster never said????  Many questions remain that we are unable to answer.

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@rms1954   LOL  Yes, I defended a poster the other day and she slammed me for picking on her.  Obviously reading comprehension was not her forte that day.

[Sooner]

I have found that sometimes someone thinks that they have really done something great, or put a smack-down on somebody and come here under the guise of asking for advice, when what they really want is praise.

It shocks them to find out that not everyone thinks the behavior was great.

Some people are just offended if their actions and words aren't received as golden. 

[agb80]

Some people create threads with a long story of their lives and then are shocked when others comment.  The OP then states they were just venting and not looking for comments.  

I think it's unrealistic to create a drama filled thread and not expect people to comment.  I also do not like to see an OP get into a huff over something they themselves have created.  

Take responsibility for your own threads and stop complaining or better yet stop creating them in the first place.