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[Free2be]

Juju, I love how you think!

[JuJu Squeezie]

On 5/1/2015 Free2be said:

Juju, I love how you think!

xoxo

[melfie]

On 5/1/2015 wookie said:

On 5/1/2015 melfie said:

Well, I was replying to Lion in the other thread and it's closed for comment. Lion said, "In *their* mind it happened, but it wasn't really that way at all." I thought that was an interesting statement because really that may not be the case. Perhaps it was in her mind it happened but it didn't happen that way. If Lion (for example) is telling her "accuser" to support the accusation with proof and the accuser cannot what does that accomplish? Is it proof it didn't happen? Does not being able to pull up a post or thread make her right? And if being right is so crucial then why? Ego? In squabbles one person rarely is 100% right and the other 100% wrong. And to some it's important because being right is being victorious. If we let go of that need there will be a lot less conflict here.

melfie, I missed the last posts on that thread because of a real life distraction, but I agree with your post here. Part of it has to do with my personality. I am Irish. My dad tells me I am more like his side of the family than any of his other children. I simply cannot truly hold on to a grudge for long in real life, just like my grandfather couldn't. Sometimes this trait of mine produces incredulous reactions. But it is what it is. LOL

I try hard with my family not to do that. I used to give 101 facts why my son was wrong and why he shouldn't do something and it ended up as a shaming process which is not what I intended it to be. So I don't go there anymore.

[blackhole99]

I don't think there is any thing wrong with holding a grudge or being unforgiving if it's warranted and justified. Some things in life are unforgivable and I don't think taking the high road is the way to go for most of us. I have tried to forgive and said I did, but it doesn't last long. It doesn't effect the way I live my life or the people I love so this works for me. Distance is a big part of being able to move on, some people are just not good for you, and it's me first.

[dooBdoo]

On 5/1/2015 JuJu Squeezie said:

On 5/1/2015 dooBdoo said:

On 5/1/2015 JuJu Squeezie said:

The only thing I cannot ignore is some nic who will never let me know who she/he is, telling lies about me here.

If I can't get them to stop it, I have decided I will just bury them on a red ant hill in my mind and they will be forever poofed. This tit4tat thing is old and every insult has been hurled at least 100 times.

I hope to stick to ant hill punishment and carry on!

The spreading of falsehoods is beyond annoying, that's for sure, JuJu, and I'm sorry you've experienced it. I guess all of us have been the recipients of that. Some of it is just misunderstandings that keep festering, but others are purposeful and harmful. Love the ant hill, though, and I'll have to remember that!

"Red" ant hill, that red is the kicker! I may need help remembering.

I think I'll go with fire ants. When I first moved to Texas, I was rudely introduced to their bites and never forgot -- yikes, who knew such tiny creatures could exact such damage!?! So I'll go with fire ants.

[JuJu Squeezie]

On 5/1/2015 dooBdoo said:

On 5/1/2015 JuJu Squeezie said:

On 5/1/2015 dooBdoo said:

On 5/1/2015 JuJu Squeezie said:

The only thing I cannot ignore is some nic who will never let me know who she/he is, telling lies about me here.

If I can't get them to stop it, I have decided I will just bury them on a red ant hill in my mind and they will be forever poofed. This tit4tat thing is old and every insult has been hurled at least 100 times.

I hope to stick to ant hill punishment and carry on!

The spreading of falsehoods is beyond annoying, that's for sure, JuJu, and I'm sorry you've experienced it. I guess all of us have been the recipients of that. Some of it is just misunderstandings that keep festering, but others are purposeful and harmful. Love the ant hill, though, and I'll have to remember that!

"Red" ant hill, that red is the kicker! I may need help remembering.

I think I'll go with fire ants. When I first moved to Texas, I was rudely introduced to their bites and never forgot -- yikes, who knew such tiny creatures could exact such damage!?! So I'll go with fire ants.

red + fire ants-same

[Surfnturf]

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