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[tansy]

On 8/16/2014 dooBdoo said:

On 8/16/2014 wookie said:

The angrier I get, the quieter I get. At some point I try to talk it through with the person. It seems I am unable to hold a grudge after a short while. One of my best friends has told me I forgive too easily. I like my dad's explanation better. He says its my Irish roots coming through, that I am just like my grandfather in that and many other regards.

wookie, I think it's admirable that you're able to forgive.

It's always been my firm belief that when we forgive it doesn't mean what the other person did was okay. Grudges can make us sick. Forgiveness is a loving gift to ourselves.

Letting go of grudges is beneficial in so many ways. I've been told I'm too forgiving, too, but it works for me.

[this is my nic]

Verbally!

[Shorty2U]

I never yell but I do vent and talk about it. I do have a bad temper my whole life. I have learned to control it. I would never use violence. Im all about peace.

[lulu2]

It depends what has caused my anger. I've never been a yeller. Most often if the problem can be discussed, I discuss it as calmly as possible. If I have no control over the issue, I take a deep breath and count to 10.

[AnikaBrodie]

I count to ten and raise my voice but not necessarily in that order. I do not cuss - ever. I hate cussing.

[blackhole99]

The only people who I care enough to be angry with over something from time to time is my immediate family. I usually blow up when it happens, the problem gets resolved and we move on.

[~kaIypso~]

There is not a one size fit all answer. Depends on why I'm angry.

[skuggles]

I do all of it depending, except seeking revenge. I was taught that revenge is totally unacceptable. I have been soooooo tempted, but could never bring myself to do so. They say you shall reap what you sow. I kinda have to just go with that.

And violence is just out of the question, even though I think my yelling may be considered a form of violence to the ears and dignity of the recipient, to be honest. So try to keep that under control too. But I'm not perfect.

[feline groovy]

I'll tell you what I don't do: take it out on others. I've always turned it inward, if it's something that involves me personally.

I'm not vengeful or retaliatory, and I try to avoid conflict and confrontation if at all possible.

Unfortunately, there's now an ever-increasing amount of people that blindly strike out, due to their enormous arrogance, entitlement, and self-importance issues. (totally disgusts me)

This is caused by whoever raised them, as they were children who were never taught empathy or coping skills. And likely didn't even have their most basic needs - love and attention - met.

[Abby Grace]

I become very quiet. I saw enough yelling & raised voices in my younger years, and will NEVER do that.