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[gidgetgh]

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@goldensrbest wrote:

Storage containers are wanted by many people,throws, and blankets can br given to animal rescues.

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@goldensrbest - I don't throw things out that can be used.  I donate them. 

[godi]

@gidgetgh god bless and take one day at a time. Your whole life is upside down it's ok to have depressed feelings and times of shock. (((((hugs))))) to you. 

[cotton4me]

I’m sorry for your loss.  (((Hugs)))

We recently sold our home of 40 years and moved to a small retirement apartment.  We had a lot of stuff.  Thank goodness for Salvation Army and 1800gotjunk.  Both helped in the process.  And just an FYI, 1800gotjunk donates all usable items.  They were very helpful and professional.

We got rid of most of our furniture, linens, supplies, dishes, pots and pans, etc.  I like living with less.  It’s very freeing.  I think we tend to fill whatever space we have.  I’m trying not to do that here.  Our living room is very sparse, and I hope to keep it that way.  

The only drawback was that the virus hit in the middle of trying to downsize and move.  I was getting rid of extras – food, paper products and even Lysol wipes!  I wish I had those now.      

[MomCat]

First of all, bless you and so sorry for your loss.  I've been working on this same project for awhile now, and have gotten rid of so much.  Good riddance!  My biggest problem when it comes to clutter, is I am a crafter.  I laugh when I look around my house now and see nothing but junk and paint.  That seems to make me smile.  I think twice before buying anything for the house, or even clothes.  I seriously have enough clothes to last the rest of my life.  How can you improve on leggings and t-shirts??  That's almost a uniform for me.  LOL. 

[bonnielu]

Very sorry for your loss.  You are very lucky to have family that cares and is willing to help.  

I have been going through all my things as well.  We are both seniors.  Before the Covid hit I was "only twelve," felt like that because of all our dancing and all our traveling. Seems the lack of activity has aged us and in my case has made me feel really ancient. Everything hurts.

I am going through things as well. I have also cut down on buying.  No need to have more when I am trying hard to have less.  Hard work, sentimental things since I got all  my mothers and grandmothers "everything."  My daughters want none of it so sentimental does not cut it anymore. 

I am going to give you some advice.  Just get rid of it with the help of someone who doesn't care that much about it.  And for your own happiness GET OUT.. WHEN YOU CAN AND BE WITH PEOPLE.  I am sure when the inevitable happens the surviving one of us should continue dancing. 

[alicedee]

@gidgetgh I was married for over 40 years, and left a three bedroom house.  My apartment is small, without a ton of storage.

I did what you are doing....went through the stuff I was able to bring with me, and donated what I don't use.  Living alone, I just don't need ... or use....multiples of so many things.  

And I continue to look at things, getting rid of stuff that doesn't serve this stage of my life.

You have been in my thoughts and prayers...I know this is a tough time for you.  Sending a cyber-hug.

[Mominohio]

There are so many phases of life, and with them, a different idea of what is needed, and what is wanted. We usually start out with little, accumulate through the years of increasing income, child rearing etc. Then one day, we realize we don't really need all that we truly did need at another time and place in our lives, and it's time to get our things more in scale with our lifestyle today.

I'm the farthest thing from a minimalist, and don't think I'll ever be one, but I'm thinning out too, have been for a couple of years now. 

I wish you peace as you begin to let go of your husband's things. Take your time, and do what you feel is right, when you feel it is right, and it will happen as it needs to. 

[gidgetgh]

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@bonnielu wrote:

Very sorry for your loss.  You are very lucky to have family that cares and is willing to help.  

I have been going through all my things as well.  We are both seniors.  Before the Covid hit I was "only twelve," felt like that because of all our dancing and all our traveling. Seems the lack of activity has aged us and in my case has made me feel really ancient. Everything hurts.

I am going through things as well. I have also cut down on buying.  No need to have more when I am trying hard to have less.  Hard work, sentimental things since I got all  my mothers and grandmothers "everything."  My daughters want none of it so sentimental does not cut it anymore. 

I am going to give you some advice.  Just get rid of it with the help of someone who doesn't care that much about it.  And for your own happiness GET OUT.. WHEN YOU CAN AND BE WITH PEOPLE.  I am sure when the inevitable happens the surviving one of us should continue dancing. 

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@bonnielu - I feel suddenly very old also.  Combination of the Covid and my husband's death. 

[Porcelain]

When I lived alone, one great thing about it was that my whole place was mine to do with however I wished. I never had to consider, oh the livingroom shouldn't be toooo girly. Or oh my partner can't stand that color. Or we have to work the room around his everloving giant leather chair. You can express yourself completely in the space, as well as tangibly honor your memories of your loved ones in any ways you want to.

Of course, now might not be the right time for that attitude, but maybe let a backburner part of the old magoo simmer on it for a while. I think you are on the right track with letting go of the things that don't serve you now.

[gidgetgh]

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@Porcelain wrote:

When I lived alone, one great thing about it was that my whole place was mine to do with however I wished. I never had to consider, oh the livingroom shouldn't be toooo girly. Or oh my partner can't stand that color. Or we have to work the room around his everloving giant leather chair. You can express yourself completely in the space, as well as tangibly honor your memories of your loved ones in any ways you want to.

Of course, now might not be the right time for that attitude, but maybe let a backburner part of the old magoo simmer on it for a while. I think you are on the right track with letting go of the things that don't serve you now.

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@Porcelain - yeah, I'm kind of sticking with non emotional stuff.  Tupperware, Pyrex, household stuff. I did donate 3 pairs of his old eyeglasses yesterday at our eye doctor, but no way am I going to part with the pair he was wearing currently. No way.