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Re: When someone doesn't want the gift you gave them

He might not want the gift...but as long as he loves you - what's the problem?

Enjoy him while you have him!!!

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Re: When someone doesn't want the gift you gave them

During the last year (92 years old) of his life, my dad, the most agreeable of men, didn't want a thing new. He spent all day in a broken recliner because he wouldn't let me buy a new one. No new clothing, even socks or underwear. I think he knew his days were numbered and he didn't want to "waste" the money on himself. For his last Christmas, I gave him some much-needed warm clothing. He never wore any of it and died on January 10th; I returned all his gifts.
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Re: When someone doesn't want the gift you gave them

Haven't you ever received a gift you didn't like?

Be happy you still have your father and let him make his coffee the way he's been making it for umpty-nine years.

Personally I do not care for coffee from a Keurig. To my taste buds, it's instant coffee.

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Re: When someone doesn't want the gift you gave them

On 12/26/2014 kdgn said:
On 12/26/2014 hyacinth003 said:

First, my sister-in-law just couldn't wait to tell me he doesn't want it. That's the way she is.

I gave it a lot of thought, and knew it was a possibility that he wouldn't want it. My husband and daughter encouraged me to get it.

Last night, I made a point of setting it up, trying it, and leaving everything in place for him to use it.

Then he starts making fun of it all and not even listening. I just don't know how to take this new and not improved version of him!

Hyacinth {#emotions_dlg.confused1}


He's 87 and his short term memory probably isn't anywhere near what it used to be. Even though you set it up for him, remembering how to use it is a different matter. To make up for not wanting to admit the memory problems, he makes fun of it and refuses to listen.

I think kdgn nailed it.

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Re: When someone doesn't want the gift you gave them

On 12/26/2014 ury said:
On 12/26/2014 ncascade said:

He may think it is too hard to learn how to use it. He is old.

Agree. My in-laws are in their 80s. We give gift cards to their favorite restaurants and they are thrilled. No new gadgets for them.

Gift cards are the best gift for the elderly, they can get what they want or eat more often at their favorite restaurant. Who wouldn't want that?

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Re: When someone doesn't want the gift you gave them

On 12/26/2014 kdgn said:
On 12/26/2014 hyacinth003 said:

First, my sister-in-law just couldn't wait to tell me he doesn't want it. That's the way she is.

I gave it a lot of thought, and knew it was a possibility that he wouldn't want it. My husband and daughter encouraged me to get it.

Last night, I made a point of setting it up, trying it, and leaving everything in place for him to use it.

Then he starts making fun of it all and not even listening. I just don't know how to take this new and not improved version of him!

Hyacinth {#emotions_dlg.confused1}


He's 87 and his short term memory probably isn't anywhere near what it used to be. Even though you set it up for him, remembering how to use it is a different matter. To make up for not wanting to admit the memory problems, he makes fun of it and refuses to listen.

BINGO! Give him a hug and forget about it!!

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Re: When someone doesn't want the gift you gave them

I would not want that coffee maker either. I like making coffee the old fashioned way of brewing it. Do not blame your Father for not wanting such a gift.
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Re: When someone doesn't want the gift you gave them

It doesn't sound like it has anything to do with the coffee maker or the cost of kcups. My father wouldn't keep any gift that he considered extravagant or he already had one. After he was gone, my mother spilled the beans that he returned all his presents. No idea how he did that without a receipt, but he did. He was from the depression era and never liked to waste money.
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Re: When someone doesn't want the gift you gave them

My parents died young, but I have an 80 year old Aunt who does not get joy out of any thing any more. I would give her a gift at holiday time and she would accept it, but never comment on it, it was like she never received it. Unfortunately I have other relatives like that too, but they are much younger. Any way I think her problem is she is depressed so I don't take it personally.

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Re: When someone doesn't want the gift you gave them

A few years ago, I took a chance on buying a Keurig for my parents...and they really love it. You can just never tell with seniors. The only thing my parents skimp on..is the coffee k cups. They only buy the cheaper ones, but my siblings and I now have good gift ideas for any occasion now. We buy them lots of k cups!