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Re: When someone doesn't want the gift you gave them

I think many people who grew up in the depression are very thrifty and would see paying for a Keurig and K cups as an extravagance. My 90 year old mother is the same way and isn''t at all shy about telling me a gift isn't something she wants.

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Maybe he just likes his coffee the way he makes it. DH and I are like that, too. We grind our own coffee beans fresh daily and make it our way. Ours tastes much better that way to us.

I wouldn't have given it back, though, but I realize some people would, especially relatives.

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Those Kcups can get expensive. Maybe that is his reasoning. I am not a coffee drinker so I am not sure of the exact price. I have bought my mom a Keurig on two different occasions and neither lasted the entire year. I bought her one last Christmas and it broke in November of this year.

All the real coffee aficionados I know do not like Keurigs at all. They say it doesn't brew it properly. I don't know if that is true of not as I don't drink it. Is that his reasoning?

I would not feel bad. Your dad is older and I have noticed that most older people don't have much of a filter.

I am sure you do want you dad to have something he really wants and not just something you want him to have so let him get what he would like. I would not take it personally at all.

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Re: When someone doesn't want the gift you gave them

I can understand someone who is 87 year old not wanting a Keurig. I'm nowhere near that age, and to me, they seem like they would be complicated to use and maintain. I wouldn't want to have to buy all those little cups, either.

I was a little hurt when my daughter didn't like some of her gifts, but I told her I'd saved the receipts and to switch the items for something she would prefer, so she got herself things more to her liking.

No sense keeping something if you're not going to use it.

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Re: When someone doesn't want the gift you gave them

I ask for suggestions from my family members that way they get what they need and want and Saves me a lot of time.
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Sometimes folks (including me/myself) like the good old-fashioned gadgets! I'd box it up and re-gift it or return it. Some stores (QVC, etc.) will return, even after being used. p.s. It's very common that some (not all) seniors don't want new, different items. I love my electric and stove top percolators. I love scooping out the coffee, and packing the percolator basket. The aromaSmile while doing this is wonderful...........

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p.s. Don't get angry, and don't make a 'big deal' when you pick up and re-box the Keurig. Just be happy, cheerfully take it, telling your Dad that there's no use in his keeping it if he doesn't want to use it. And give him a big cheerful hug or kiss! Maybe buy him something more practical that he will use, even if it's warm gloves, his favorite socks, etc. Sometimes the smaller, less expensive gifts are the most welcomed! They are for me, and I'm not anywhere near my 80's yet.

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My MIL God rest her soul, when we gave her a cordless phone would never use it because she thought people could 'listen in' on her conversations. She always preferred her heavy rotary dial black phone in her living room to answer the phone!!

Her son, my BIL never threw anything out--- there were 2 electric lawn mowers in their garage and one worked and the other didn't! Cribs were in the attic along with other chests of drawers!! I do not understand those who 'keep' everything. I think being a participant in the Depression made people want to hold on to things and keep fixing things themselves as they had lots of time to do things but no money to hire someone to do it.

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Re: When someone doesn't want the gift you gave them

On 12/26/2014 hyacinth003 said:

First, my sister-in-law just couldn't wait to tell me he doesn't want it. That's the way she is.

I gave it a lot of thought, and knew it was a possibility that he wouldn't want it. My husband and daughter encouraged me to get it.

Last night, I made a point of setting it up, trying it, and leaving everything in place for him to use it.

Then he starts making fun of it all and not even listening. I just don't know how to take this new and not improved version of him!

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He's 87 and his short term memory probably isn't anywhere near what it used to be. Even though you set it up for him, remembering how to use it is a different matter. To make up for not wanting to admit the memory problems, he makes fun of it and refuses to listen.

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Regarding telephones: We have a lot of 'interference' with phones, TV's, computers, etc. around here. Even a baby monitor here has picked up people walking around, kids talking, etc. in the neighborhood. There was a real life story I read/heard about (maybe a poster here) regarding a neighbor being heard in someone's doorbell box receiver. I'm thinking that the more people and gadgets in our immediate area, the less privacy. It's just a fact of modern living. Look at all of the billions of identity theft, even while walking, standing around. I'm thinking that the above poster's mom is better off with a rotary phone!

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