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Re: When someone doesn't want the gift you gave them

Can't blame your dad, as K-cups are very expensive, and I doubt he would DIY substitutes like some people do.

Perhaps you should have considered that extra expense, as well as his particular budget and money views - before you chose the Keurig. Plus, you know him best, and shouldn't have let yourself be persuaded against your better judgement.

It's much better to research a potential gift beforehand, including user comments and reviews.

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Re: When someone doesn't want the gift you gave them

He might be exhibiting a little bit of control he still might have just by refusing. I would guess if it sat on the counter for a while, he would begin using it....as long as it was HIS idea, you know?

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Re: When someone doesn't want the gift you gave them

when my husband's aunt and uncle were alive and elderly, they were unable to cook for themselves. people would bring food a couple of times a week so we bought them a microwave oven. Wowee that thing was back on our porch before it was 10:00 am Christmas Day !! older people don't understand modern appliances.
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Re: When someone doesn't want the gift you gave them

Keurigs are definitely a personal choice. I love mine and would never want to be without one. But there are many people, including those in their 20s and 30s, who want nothing to do with them. So your father's not wanting it could be an age thing (I certainly get that as my mother barely managed a cordless phone, with difficulty, and no other electronics, ever), or it could just be personal preference.

I can speak to the other side of the coin, as far as gifts not wanted. Every birthday and Xmas, and eve with "just because" anytime gifts, even though I told my mom what things I wanted or liked - this style or color, not that style or color - and what I would NOT have a use for, she still often bought me what she wanted me to have, what she thought I OUGHT to like, etc. because she liked it and wanted me to have it. If she liked it, I simply couldn't possibly really not want it.

So, I also totally get being the frustrated person who got a lot of things they didn't want over the years. I never said much, because she *knew* she was getting me something I's said I didn't like. It was a control issue in some part.

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Re: When someone doesn't want the gift you gave them

Send it back. I wouldn't want to pay for those k-cups either.

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Re: When someone doesn't want the gift you gave them

Well, that is the risk you take when you buy what you want for the person....instead of what the person wants. You should have asked your Dad if he wanted a Keurig. He knows there's no Santa, his present didnt have to be a surprise. Actually, I agree with your dad. My sister asked me if I wanted a Keurig and she was surprised when I said, not in a million years. And relieved because she never expected that reaction. My parents passed when they were in their 80's. I only bought them things I knew they would want. Sure, I can understand your bruised feelings but at least he told you. That's better than putting it on the counter and never using it.
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Re: When someone doesn't want the gift you gave them

That's why it's a good idea to order from QVC and other stores/places where you can actually try, use the item, and then return it if it's not exactly what you or someone else wants or likes. That is a HUGE plus, IMO.

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I'm somewhat disappointed this year. I don't think anyone liked anything I gave them. I realized this several days before Christmas, so I also included cards with checks in them. I figured they would appreciate that. Not saying this negatively, I just think I don't choose well anymore.

Also, my filter is off and I blurted some things out that I shouldn't have, e.g., "no biscuits?" My daughter offered to make some halfway through the dinner and I said "no, it's no biggie." But I think I hurt her feelings.

I learned last night that they were all getting together again today, but it was not mentioned to me. They either took it for granted that someone would pick me up, or, well, I can't even say it. I did leave a VM on my youngest daughter's phone about it last night, but I haven't heard from her yet. It's 11 AM here now and the gathering is set for 1 PM. I don't know whether to get ready or not. And I don't know whether to call her again or not.

This is very out of character for my kids. But maybe they just want to get together without "grandma" for once, and I can understand that.

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We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Elie Wiesel 1986
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Re: When someone doesn't want the gift you gave them

Ford: Sorry about this. I wouldn't call again. Just sit home and see what happens. Maybe one of them will wonder why you're not there with them and call you. OR, you can be brave and just show up! Act as though you heard the conversation and assume that you were included in the get-together. The choice is yours. I'm on the fence as to what I would do, though.

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Re: When someone doesn't want the gift you gave them

Yep, when parents are into or getting into their 90s they somehow merge back into their terrible twos. It is really hard to realize you have to be OK with taking care of their whims. But just humor them for the time they have left. Familiar seems more calming to them, maybe it is a stress thing with learning new things.