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[dex]

My husband tends to think life is over when he gets sick too and he loves to be pampered during that time.I find though that the more I pamper the longer he is sick.My mom believed that you got going no matter what and that is how I was raised.My husbands mother felt that you needed to lie down and be cared for if you just had a headache so there is the difference.I kind of raised my son with a combo of both ideas .

[dex]

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@debic wrote:

LOL, while I do know such men, my husband has to be on his death bed to stay in bed.  He passed 2 humongous kidney stones and never even left work.

Oh oh my goodness that must have been killer pain.

[I like celery]

@Deb1010again Have you ever seen the "Man Cold" video on YouTube?   

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rXLHWmjA5IE  

[ShowMe]

When I go for my chemo treatments we are in a large room with recliner chairs and wraps on each one.  I would say there are more women in there than men......  It amazes me how many of the husbands are there with their wives and how attentive they are.  Do anything to comfort their wives.  It is so sweet to see that. 

And yes, there are some older and younger men getting treatments too.  Some do have their wives there attending to them.  But seems more men come alone.....like I do. 

[RedTop]

My husband used to be one of those men who never let an injury or illness slow him down.  He actually suffered his big MI on the job, and even tho he had been to the doctor, two times that week before the MI, and two times after, his MI was not diagnosed until Mon., when his third EKG was different.  Afterwards, when I confronted our doctor as to why they didn't pick up on the classic signs of an MI, his response was that my husband never acted sick, nor did he describe his symptoms in a way that made him suspect it was the heart.   My husband had described his chest pain as "discomfort"----about a 4 on the pain scale.  In hindsight, the doctor realized diabetes had masked the pain, and a patient without diabetes would have been describing that same level of pain at 10+.   Had my husband shared his inner feelings that he felt he was going to die, the doctor might have suspected a more intense issue, and things might have been done differently.  

[Citrine1]

@Deb1010again, Funny thread!  And so true of so many men.  When my husband has a cold, it's never "just a cold".  It's bronchitis or a sinus infection or the flu.  Haha.  When I have a cold, it's "just a little cold".  

Edited to say -- sorry, I meant funny post, not funny thread.  Obviously, I don't think it's funny that some of your husbands have had serious health issues.  I'm sorry to those of you who have lost your spouses.

[blackhole99]

My husband has always been overly sensitive when it comes to illness or injury One time he cut his finger when he was doing a home project and wanted to be taken to the ER. I treated the cut for him, but I can tell you he monitored that cut for 3 days until it healed. I can only imagine what he'll be like when something serious happens to him.

[Mmsfoxxie]

My hubby has to be babied, too, when he's sick, lol.  Heck, imo, he's so old school (woman doing most things in the house) that unconsciously, he expects more than he should anyway.  Sometimes if I go out early and come home around 11 in the morning, he still might not have eaten breakfast.  Sometimes I'll fix him something, sometimes I won't.  I can get stubborn, too.  (Of course if he's sick, I'll fix it before I leave).

When we women mention things about our husbands like wanting to be babied, I think it's done in love, not meanness or lack of appreciating them still being with us.  Truth is truth.

[Newgate]

My husband does complain a lot when he is sick with even just a cold but would not ask me to drop everything to take care of him but I do!  And he loves it!!  I chalk that up to him having a mother who did not do much for any of her children as far as I can tell from stories I hear from his siblings!!  The house was always dirty and she did not cook much!  She just was not a "happy camper"  and I think thats how she showed it!!  Because of that I will always over pamper him!!

[Vivian]

If anything is wrong,my husband assumes he's on death's door. He has had several surgeries, mostly orthopedic, and has called his doctors several times because he assumed something horrendous was going wrong. After back surgery in nyc, he called his doctor's offfice several times. He spoke to the nurses who could not relieve his fears. Finally, the doctor called him to say he was fine. That put a stop to that particular situation. I told my husband that if a second knee replacement is warranted, he had better get some help because I cannot deal with him.