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[Q-Anu]

Dangerous to judge by looks alone - pre-judging. Unfair, too. I try to never do that. "Even Lucifer can appear as an angel of light."

Ted Bundy is a prime example.

Shy, awkward people have trouble with eye contact. Staring too long into the eyes of another is rude and creepy, too. 

Character over a period of time is a better gauge, though nothing is foolproof. People have lived with serial rapists and killers with seemingly no knowledge. 

[puttypiesmom]

Soulful eyes and an upturned mouth do not make a trustworthy person because if you really want to believe such nonsense then you also have to believe that close set eyes and a downturned mouth are a sign of something bad.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  To use genetics as your guide instead of taking the time, lots of time, to get to know someone is foolhardy and egregiously unfair to all.      

[qualitygal]

the one on the left looks like Shrek.  

[jubilant]

NO.  That is why we tell our children at a very young age not to trust strangers.

[cherry]

I think we are conditioned by events, that people who look a certain way ,are bad. They might be the kindest person in the world

I would never be able to tell. In person there are people who give off a bad vibe ,to me, like you don't want to be alone in a room with them

Men that stare at you ,too intently, can be frightening

Some people are just creepy in person. They might be fine, but I am cautious

[Cakers3]

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@qualitygal wrote:

the one on the left looks like Shrek.  

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@qualitygal  LOL

I hope people realize that I posted that as a discussion point and not as an indication of any type of proof regarding facial characteristics and trustworthiness.

[aggravated]

That is how people get taken in by con men and women, grifters, etc.

[NAES1]

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@RedTop wrote:

I get my vibes from the eyes.  I sense goodness, peace, fear, pain, weariness, but occasionally I run across people who have an evil look in their eyes that frightens me.   

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        @RedTop

       Hello, hope you are having a very nice day. I thought your post was very well said.

I, too, can pretty {well}- (as you mentioned) sum up/ SENSE vibes from the eyes, also when speaking with strangers, can can tell whom to trust. Also, can feel emotions of other posters when speaking of another topic or thread.

Traveling the world for many years, one becomes very observant to all body language, their character and many conversations said 'to' __and__ between the change of ideas, et cetera. 

 Red Top, I always enjoy your posts, even though I am not here everyday.

  I have become much more interested in [COMMUNINITY] than before, because there is a great deal of substance being said with WRITING, than greeting cards, or what someone else says- THINK FOR YOURSELF. !!

 If this forum would stay more focus withOUT the argumentative nature, I possibly would scroll more topics. 

Very interesting thought provoking subject. 

  There is a great ratio of people that can hold my attention, and appears to be much better with niceness than before.

 'Hoping that Community many maintain that presentation'. 

[puttypiesmom]

People who have the ability to look someone in the eye is not an indicator that they are truthful because much of what we do is from learned behavior from years of experience starting from childhood.  You have to really get to know someone very well to understand them.  Same thing with "good vibes."  That's how women get themselves in terrible relationships....that's how the elderly get duped by someone looking for work around their home and then rob them blind or worse.....that's how gullible men get roped into a relationship with a woman who then proceeds to run up his credit card.  

[WaJa61]

No, @ShowMe... it takes way more than a photo or one face-to-face encounter with eye contact in order for one to gain my trust. 

While I feel it's true that our faces can reveal a bit about our personalities ~ especially as we age... there's a lot more to us than ever meets the eye. 

We are conditioned from our personal experiences to have all kinds of preconceived notions about others based on appearances alone. Some of these benefit us as a warning, others betray us terribly. Those best at deceiving others got that way through lots of practice. Studying their prey carefully. They can look you dead in the eye while lying their butts off! Think Jodie Arias and Cassie Anthony, for example. 💀 💀