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[GenXmuse]

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@puttypiesmom wrote:

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@cherry wrote:

I miss 2 , I know are banned..They both had a lively posting style ,and were always fun and interesting ,even if I didn't agree with them

I also think they were both good people

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Here's how I feel for what it's worth, lol.

There are and were some that got under my skin but that doesn't mean I want to see them permanently gone for that is just too depressing.  Noel is such a smart woman despite everything.  I will never forget a recent post of hers where she said her husband fell on top of her inside their home.  She suffered greatly from that with bruises, etc and that had to be hard on her anyway considering her other medical issues.  I cried when I read that post of hers explaining what happened. She continued to post and probably was in pain yet she had the NEED.  

Don't get me wrong.  To everyone she offended including me at times, I get you 100%. But permanently removing someone is like losing someone, I mean really losing someone if you know what I mean.   I'm going to go cry now.  

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She could definitely be a dog with a bone at times. 

[Cakers3]

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@GenXmuse wrote:

I was wondering what happened to Noel. I miss her. 

I know of a few posters that should be banned for overreporting if you get banned over that. 

Who else has been banned?

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@GenXmuse  How do you know those posters have been overreporting?

[Bird mama]

@Judaline  I remember ennui from the jewelry forum :-)

[occasionalrain]

I may not appreciate posts being removed by the moderators but it's their job and I accept their decisions. 

However, I strongly object to fellow posters playing BB cop. I object to the reporters deciding what I should be permitted to read. Who are they to decide what's acceptable and what isn't.

[Marp]

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@occasionalrain wrote:

I may not appreciate posts being removed by the moderators but it's their job and I accept their decisions. 

However, I strongly object to fellow posters playing BB cop. I object to the reporters deciding what I should be permitted to read. Who are they to decide what's acceptable and what isn't.

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My understanding of the process is that if a poster finds a post inappropriate they report it and the MODS decide if the post should stay or should be removed NOT the reporter.

[september]

I do remember @ ennui.   I loved her nic, and had to google what it meant, many years ago.  Yes, she often posted about jewelry, but ventured out to other parts of the board, too. 

Thats what many of us did...started out with one part of the shopping area of this board, then started chatting about other topics.  

Im sure that’s why QVC maintains this board....shoppers come here for chat about the products being offered, make contacts with others, keep signing in most days, find other convos about things to buy....etc, etc, etc. 

[dooBdoo]

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@Cakers3 wrote:

 I will say one more thing-the recent banning of a certain old-timer had me taking a break from here for a bit.

While I locked horns many times with her, I never forgot a kindness she posted about my DS.  Later we put down our swords and were posting together just fine.

You see- I don't foget a kindness.  And I have to remind myself that we are all in the same boat in life, just with a different crew.  So I keep in mind that my posts were not always the kindest; and yet kindness was still shown to me.

We can scratch, we can claw, we can bite and back-stab; we can hurt people.

We can also own our stuff; we can extend the olive branch, we can move on either with a new friendship, a renewed friendship, or an agreement to just not engage anymore.

It's about choice.  It doesn't matter who makes the first move; as long as the move is made.  This isn't just about this board; it's about life.

I see remarks made about me; and I think how sad it must be to not be able to let go of some long ago forgotten (and probably skewered memory) tiff that really wasn't all that important to begin with.

So sometimes I leave for a bit and stay offline with the ones who have held me up in my darkest times during RL issues; these are the ladies I love as cherished friends.

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            Dearest friend, your post touched my heart and set my mind abuzz (in a good way!) and I wanted to quote it to thank you.    I'm glad you're here, and I hope you stay with us, @Cakers3.❤️

[dooBdoo]

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@puttypiesmom wrote:

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@cherry wrote:

I miss 2 , I know are banned..They both had a lively posting style ,and were always fun and interesting ,even if I didn't agree with them

I also think they were both good people

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Here's how I feel for what it's worth, lol.

There are and were some that got under my skin but that doesn't mean I want to see them permanently gone for that is just too depressing.  Noel is such a smart woman despite everything.  I will never forget a recent post of hers where she said her husband fell on top of her inside their home.  She suffered greatly from that with bruises, etc and that had to be hard on her anyway considering her other medical issues.  I cried when I read that post of hers explaining what happened. She continued to post and probably was in pain yet she had the NEED.  

Don't get me wrong.  To everyone she offended including me at times, I get you 100%. But permanently removing someone is like losing someone, I mean really losing someone if you know what I mean.   I'm going to go cry now.  

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           I also wanted to quote your post because it, too, touched my heart, caused me to think more carefully about several things, and brought tears to my eyes.   I also really miss Noel7, and still am disappointed and dismayed that she's not allowed back into the forums.   You and I haven't posted together much so far, but I appreciate the thought, compassion  and emotion in your comments.    I look forward to seeing you here more often and getting to know you better.   Thank you...  I'm glad you're here.❤️

[dooBdoo]

           The metamorphosis of this thread has been valuable and contemplative food for thought.  Among all the awesome contributions, however, I hope it's okay to single out @Cakers3 and @puttypiesmom's comments that I quoted because they really hit home in a couple of ways.   

            They, and other posters here, started me thinking about forgiveness, resentments, grudges, and about grace and benevolence.   About how we genuinely can come to care deeply and profoundly about the human beings who post here with us.    And about the lasting effect we have on one another.

            Like @puttypiesmom, I weep for my fellow posters and try to be cognizant of their courageous struggles.    And as she said, "permanently removing someone is like losing someone, I mean really losing someone."   I often disagreed with those who are missing, but their voices are important and they caused me to think about things in a way that's different from my usual perspective.   I find myself feeling a palpable emptiness, a void, and certainly can't rejoice seeing established voices silenced forever.    Like @Cakers3, I remember kindnesses more than the occasional hurts and I yearn for olive branches and new beginnings.   I want us to hear one another -- really hear, and give more weight and power to the kindnesses than to the intermittent slights.   And I hope and pray for understanding and the grace of forgiveness.

            So... I have a request, although no one here owes me anything.    I have a request that we set aside past grievances...  as the hymn says, "lay down our sword and shield..."    That we find forgiveness in our heart and allow each other to start fresh, with the benefit of the doubt that each of us is doing the best we can, we learn as we go, and when we know better we will do better (to paraphrase Maya Angelou).    

            To those who have felt pain, sadness, anger, or offense because of my words and deeds, I am so very sorry.    I hope we can make amends.  I wish we had a way to quietly and privately talk when there's a problem, but the constraints of this forum don't permit it.   Perhaps we can try to do so with all eyes watching, though that's more difficult.  

            So...   I have a request that we see each other as friends with tender hearts and probably painful scars.    We post with individuals who have known -- and who know -- darkness and a depth of anguish that perhaps they never can share.   I have a request that we will be empathetic, sensitive, and that will will extend forgiveness and amity.   Even if the forgiveness or fresh start isn't extended to me, my request is that we try to offer it to as many posters as we can.    

            Let us come away from here as friends.   I, for one, am a better person for knowing all of you and for that I'm eternally grateful.❤️

[JaneMarple]

Your sentiments are beautiful @dooBdoo but I'm skeptical of of this happening on these boards.