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[closetQVCgirl]

Sorry for the mysterious thread title, but this one's hard to sum up in a descriptive way. Here's the deal. My 11 year-old daughter has a red birthmark on one side of her face at the temple. It's about the size of a dime and she had been a little self-conscious about it from time to time. I don't notice it so much, and we have always stood behind our philosophy that she is perfect just the way she is, and it is just part of her. For the most part, she accepts that. However, she is a pre-teen and very sensitive about anything regarding her appearance.

We just got portraits done of the kids, and they are very cute. I gave my parents and in-laws the photographer's website and our password so they could order the poses they liked. I went to my in-laws' house today to drop off something I had borrowed and I was shocked when I saw the portrait that my MIL had ordered. There is apparently an option with our photographer to remove "flaws" like blemishes or sticking up hair, and she had used that option to remove my daughter's birthmark! I was very caught off guard and I didn't say anything because I was afraid it would be too candid. My biggest concern (besides getting out without strangling her) was that my daughter visits my in-laws fairly often, and I don't want my daughter to see that her grandmother removed her birthmark in the portrait. I don't know how to handle this, and I am wondering if I am being a defensive mother for being so irritated.