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[Surfnturf]

After allowing myself some time to digest the realization of what my child was experiencing, I would seek the advice of professionals in the field of transgender issues. That would be a good starting point for me.

[gazelle77]

It is why I chose not to have children. I do not want to have to deal with such issues. I do not want the responsibility of another life or to have to make such decisions.

[NoelSeven]

On 6/8/2014 bathina said:

On 6/8/2014 pistolino said:

Honestly, I wouldn't be thrilled. I view it as a mental problem (you have this anatomy, your mind tells you you are the other gender).<br /> <br /> I also think it's crazy to give teens hormone implants that keep puberty at bay. You can't fool Mother Nature...

Your "view" has been disproved by science. The body is a very complicated thing. You would be surprised at the number of babies born with both scks organs. Is it a mental problem then?

Right. Numerous variations are possible, only the person inside knows what's going on.

There's a lot of good information online, if anyone wants to really understand the issues involved.

[Marienkaefer2]

I would love the child for the person they are, and help them to be the best person they could be.

[brewhaha]

I would love them just the same as my other children.

[RainCityGirl]

I don't pretend to be a medical doctor, a scientist, or a psychologist, but I know what the research says. As most of you know, there are many things that can happen during pregnancy and birth: partial corpus callosum; hermaphrodite reproductive organs; an extra chromosome; organs on the exterior instead of the interior; conjoined twins; cleft palette; etc. Some can be repaired with surgery; some can't. If I had a son or daughter who was born one thing but had the characteristics of the other, I'd want to do everything I could to help that child feel comfortable in his or her own skin. The most important part of it all is unconditional love and a refusal to portray that child as some kind of physical or mental freak.

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[LilacTree]

What a serious issue. I would wait until my child had gone through puberty and then seek major help from medical experts in this specialty. I would take all input from my child very, very seriously. I would not consider it a "mental' problem in the sense that my child was deranged or mentally ill in any way.

I look as Chaz Bono as an example. He knew at a very young age that something wasn't right. Cher had a hard time with it, but she loved her child and wanted happiness in life for him. As far as I know, he is happy as a man and engaged to a woman, after many years of struggle. I don't consider this a "choice" any more than I consider anyone in the L*GBT community "choosing" what gender he/she wants to be. He/she is born this way. I don't think anyone would "choose" to live such a difficult life.

I would totally support my child. Only he/she could possibly know what it feels like to not be in touch with their own body and mind or know their own identity. As I said, I would seek the support of the experts on this issue. My biggest concern would be the physical and mental health of my child in making the decision and after making it.

(ETA: Now it posted, have no idea why it wouldn't post before.)

[Yuban3]

It doesn't matter if you love him or capital H-I-M
Just put your paws up
'Cause you were born this way, baby

My mama told me when I was young
We are all born superstars
She rolled my hair and put my lipstick on
In the glass of her boudoir

There's nothin' wrong with lovin' who you are
She said, 'cause He made you perfect, babe
So hold your head up,
girl and you'll go far
Listen to me when I say

I'm beautiful in my way
'Cause God makes no mistakes
I'm on the right track, baby
I was born this way

Don't hide yourself in regret
Just love yourself and you're set
I'm on the right track, baby
I was born this way, born this way

Ooh, there ain't no other way, baby, I was born this way
Baby, I was born this way
Ooh, there ain't no other way, baby, I was born this way
I'm on the right track, baby, I was born this way

Don't be a drag, just be a queen
Don't be a drag, just be a queen
Don't be a drag, just be a queen
Don't be

Give yourself prudence and love your friends
Subway kid, rejoice of truth
In the religion of the insecure
I must be myself, respect my youth

A different lover is not a sin
Believe capital H-I-M
I love my life, I love this record and
Mi amore vole fe yah

I'm beautiful in my way,
'Cause God makes no mistakes
I'm on the right track, baby
I was born this way

Don't hide yourself in regret,
Just love yourself and you're set
I'm on the right track, baby
I was born this way

Ooh, there ain't no other way, baby, I was born this way
Baby, I was born this way
Ooh, there ain't no other way, baby, I was born this way
I'm on the right track, baby, I was born this way

Don't be drag, just be a queen
Whether you're broke or evergreen
You're black, white, beige, chola descent
You're Lebanese, you're orient

Whether life's disabilities
Left you outcast, bullied or teased
Rejoice and love yourself today
'Cause baby, you were born this way

No matter gay, straight or bi
Lesbian, transgendered life
I'm on the right track, baby
I was born to survive

No matter black, white or beige
Chola or orient made
I'm on the right track, baby
I was born to be brave

I'm beautiful in my way
'Cause God makes no mistakes
I'm on the right track, baby
I was born this way

Don't hide yourself in regret,
Just love yourself and you're set
I'm on the right track, baby
I was born this way, yeah

Ooh, there ain't no other way, baby, I was born this way
Baby, I was born this way
Ooh, there ain't no other way, baby, I was born this way
I'm on the right track, baby, I was born this way
I was born this way, hey
I was born this way, hey
I'm on the right track, baby, I was born this way, hey

I was born this way, hey
I was born this way, hey
I'm on the right track, baby, I was born this way, hey

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[ennui1]

On 6/8/2014 Marienkaefer2 said:

That last sentence right there is a classic. I wonder if a disbelief in ""science"" can be considered a mental defect?

The problem with science is that it changes. There's never a definitive answer. It's only a theory until the next study.