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[Calcgirl]

I made a really big mistake and do not know how to fix it. My son and his girlfriend live together with their combined four children. Money is not an issue for either one. Yesterday my son calls me in his car going to the Cardinal football stadium with his GF and her son, age 8 and the boys cousin, same age. He had his speaker phone on. He mentions that the seats cost $300 apiece. This is where I put my foot in my big mouth and said I thought it was ridiculous to spend $300 on tickets for 8 yr olds. I was brought up in a loving home where special things like this were doled out at age appropriate intervals. My dad would always tell me he would take me to mt first pro baseball game when I turned 11. I remember how special that day was to this day. Kids today are given too much too soon and have nothing to look forward to later, maybe that is why they turn to drugs, etc. Just my opinion. Well, his GF got so upset that she won't talk to me now. Sad part is we got along great and I have treated her children like my own grandkids. By the way, my son's kids, age 13 and 19 were not invited,( the tickets were purchased by my son's GF). I wrote her an apology email telling her my comment was not toward her son personally, just my opinion that something that special should be given later. I than said I was apparently wrong and my comment was out of place and I stand corrected and love her dearly. I have not received a response. What should I do? I feel sick about this, it is her kids and she has the right to do as she wishes. I do not want this to cause stress in their relationship ( her children due to different parenting styles have already caused stress for them, they get what they want or else) because I really care for her as does my son and our family. She is just a softy when it comes to being a mommy. She also does not allow anyone else to reprimand them. I also do not want this to cause stress in our relationship, and I am afraid it has. Me and my big mouth!!!!! I am so mad at myself. I can only assume it was not feeling well and being terrified for my husband. (we cannot get the fever down and he has a bad heart, yes he has been to the doctor) that made me give my opinion as I did . This is not like me at all. Sorry for the rambling, I am in tears over everything that has happened. Have you ever felt a dark cloud has gone over you?